Birthday

Happy birthday.

I'm not nearly as big a fan of birthdays as my family are - they all seem to get super excited, have parties and lots of fuss around he event which just doesn't appeal to me.

My approach is to have a quiet day without any unpleasant things to do that day (eg cleaning the bathroom, washing the car, going food shopping) and allow myself a few treats along the way.

I also buy myself something around this time - last year was a box of books I bought from eBay (several purchases but eneded up one big box of 30kg) which I then had shipped out to me where I live. I've already read most of them LOL

It is funny how some NTs struggle to see why we aren't as into something as much as them yet when we are into something they are mostly apathetic about it. The world is a difficult place!

To make it feel happier I like to think of it as a milestone marking another year where the system has not got me yet and I recall my achievements over the last 365 days - sometimes it can be great to see just how much has been done. 

If anyone I cared about has left this world in the last year then I like to spend a little time to remember the happy things we did, and all the good they brought. This helps me keep happy thoughts over any pain of loss as I believe they would want me to celebrate their life rather then mourn it.

This can be a little bittersweet but keeping the focus on the positives helps me.

Iain said:

I recall my achievements over the last 365 days

I think this is important. I have spent too many years just surviving. It is why I felt I was just crossing years off. I was waiting for something, I didn't know what.

Now I've been diagnosed and I'm not so confused, I have to push to go do more stuff. This year, despite the problems, is now better than the last, which is the first time I can say that in 10 years.

This way Jan 1 and your birthday can be moments of success and planning.

Keep a note of successes for review, as your mind will tend to focus on the things that did not go so well. One thing a week gives you 52 things to celebrate.

Treat yourself today. Make next birthday better.

Iain said:

I recall my achievements over the last 365 days

I think this is important. I have spent too many years just surviving. It is why I felt I was just crossing years off. I was waiting for something, I didn't know what.

Now I've been diagnosed and I'm not so confused, I have to push to go do more stuff. This year, despite the problems, is now better than the last, which is the first time I can say that in 10 years.

This way Jan 1 and your birthday can be moments of success and planning.

Keep a note of successes for review, as your mind will tend to focus on the things that did not go so well. One thing a week gives you 52 things to celebrate.

Treat yourself today. Make next birthday better.