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Loneliness

Rach.Mo

I’m new to the forum. I’m fairly newly diagnosed as autistic. I am feeling really lonely at the moment. I was wondering if anyone else feels this way as although my understanding is that autistic people often like their own company I don’t and I crave friendships but I seem to have difficulty making and maintaining them. I have been wondering about possibly trying to access an autism support group to try and make some links with other people and wondered if others have tried these and how they have found them. 

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  • Hi, sorry to hear of your struggles. I understand the feeling of loneliness and the difficulties around friendships. Like you, I too struggle to build and maintain them. When feeling lonely it feels like you are a million miles away from anyone drowning in despair.

    I have very few friends but the ones I do have came from a support group on facebook. I’ll be honest some of the people there were toxic but there are also some good ones on there. 

    Personally I fear judgement, verbal abuse, lack of understanding and coming across as stupid (although I know I’m not). It has really hindered me with social settings and amplified the feeling of being alone. 

    Definitely something that isn’t helped by difficulties around emotional regulation.

    I hope your feeling of loneliness improves and that you can make some friends. It would make me happy to have another should you be interested. 

    Best wishes going forwards

  • in reply to LJ51125

    Thank you for your reply. It helps to know that I am not the only one who struggles with these things - but I don’t mean by that I’m glad other people suffer if that makes sense. I have joined a Facebook group too called Everything Autism. It is good to have this way of connecting with people, although it somehow doesn’t feel as real as being face-to-face. I would be happy to have another friend too :) 

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  • in reply to LJ51125

    Thank you for your reply. It helps to know that I am not the only one who struggles with these things - but I don’t mean by that I’m glad other people suffer if that makes sense. I have joined a Facebook group too called Everything Autism. It is good to have this way of connecting with people, although it somehow doesn’t feel as real as being face-to-face. I would be happy to have another friend too :) 

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  • in reply to Rach.Mo

    You’re very welcome. I completely understand what you mean. The thought of others suffering is awful but having someone who can relate to what you are going through makes you feel less isolated in it. It is good that you have joined a group but sadly some people can be cruel or harsh. Try not to pay any mind to them would be my best advice. Definitely would be better face to face but sometimes even just a simple message can make a huge difference to somebody’s day. 

    Feel free to drop a private message any time if you want. I may be delayed responding but will always get back to you (even if it does take a little while)