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What to do now?

Littlemissanxious

Hi everyone Relaxed️ first time poster here,

I recently received my autism diagnosis, about 4 weeks ago. I am in my early 40s and during my assessment the doctor also said I should get assessed for ADHD. I have just joined the very long line for an assessment. I have told a few very close people, my friends have been very supportive, one was very shocked however after talking to her about how I truly feel she was suprised how much I have been masking. My sister was great, she already knew and my children have been amazing, they knew all along. I truly feel I am 100% myself, fully unmasked around them as my home is my safe space. My parents though have been less supportive,  I have been met with criticism, shock and being told the doctor was wrong. I feel this is maybe from a place of fear for them as they are the older generation. Its upset me though quite abit to not be able to discuss this with them.

I guess my question is what do I do now? I feel i have been given my diagnosis but not sure what to do with it. I'd love to find out more about how my mind works,  strategies I can use and also any suggestions on how to have those conversations with my family, I have not yet told my employer either. Does anyone have any book or podcast recommendations they could suggest? I'm better at podcasts or audio books as I can't seem to concentrate long enough to read a book at the moment. 

Sorry for such a long post, any help would be appreciated Relaxed️

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  • Welcome! It's great to know that you've had some very positive experiences so far.

    Reading and listening to the experiences of other Autistic people is probably the best thing you can invest you time in right now (it was for me, anyway). I mentioned some of my favourite websites and podcasts in a post last week. Give them a go and see if you like them.

    And your post was not very long, so no need to apologise. You'll see a lot of much longer posts on here, as we do like to provide all the information that we think might be relevant! Sometimes I find the longer posts hard to get through and other times I find all the details fascinating, so there is no right or wrong there.

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  • Welcome! It's great to know that you've had some very positive experiences so far.

    Reading and listening to the experiences of other Autistic people is probably the best thing you can invest you time in right now (it was for me, anyway). I mentioned some of my favourite websites and podcasts in a post last week. Give them a go and see if you like them.

    And your post was not very long, so no need to apologise. You'll see a lot of much longer posts on here, as we do like to provide all the information that we think might be relevant! Sometimes I find the longer posts hard to get through and other times I find all the details fascinating, so there is no right or wrong there.

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