Hi! New and need advice!

Hi everyone :)

firstly, I'd like to say that this website has been the most amazingly helpful resource I've found, EVER!! I suppose I've never needed quite so much info on any topic quite so quickly in my life, but it's been awesome so far...and I wonder if anyone can help me with something I'm having trouble with.

A bit of background info before I quiz...my partner's son has recently started school and is in the process of being assesed for Autism/Aspergers. 

It's become more apparent since starting to research this ourselves that his dad also has or had in the past a lot of traits (he had a very difficult childhood, broken education due to being labelled a "naughty" child), also, About a year ago his cousin who is a year older was assesed and found to have Aspergers, and while we don't want to jump ahead of the experts we're pretty sure what the result of the assessment is going to be.

The problem I'm having is that my partner is also severely Dyslexic, which means that I'm the one doing all if the research and gaining an understanding of what may be going on with his son, but I'm finding it hard to pass this all on to him...does anyone know of any videos, audio books etc that we can watch/llisten to together that can explain some of the difficulties we're having?

for example, today little man complained that the jumper he was wearing was "hurting" him...he often complains of clothing/socks being too tight or "hurting" and preferring polo necks to round necks etc, but he'd just has a bit of an average 5yr old meltdown so wasnt in dad's good books to being with, and the small complaint escalated quickly into a major fall out, with me desperately wanting to step in and explain that it may be a sensory issue, but also not wanting to step on dad's authoritive feet, and getting a word in edge ways would have been impossible without escalating the situation further...desperately frustrating!!

I could really do with a super informative video about challenging behaviour and potential difficulties...I don't want solutions, just to give dad a better understanding, both of himself and his son, can anyone help/advise? 

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  • Former Member
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    It sounds like you have your hands full with your partner and son. Sorry but I don't have any recommendations for videos etc.

    I can offer some reassurance that a diagnosis can be good news! If they have someone who can understand their world then they can begin to understand how to deal with"normal" people.

    Talk to the teachers and see what support they can introduce you to. Being able to ask for help is the first step - well done and I wish you success with your new mission.

    The meltdown sounds like an Asperger meltdown. You partner's response sounds like an Asperger's response. An Aspie is not likely to have much skill in dealing with children and an Aspie child will not respond well to discipline. I'm speaking as someone who was an Aspie child and was then an undiagnosed Aspie parent!

     

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    It sounds like you have your hands full with your partner and son. Sorry but I don't have any recommendations for videos etc.

    I can offer some reassurance that a diagnosis can be good news! If they have someone who can understand their world then they can begin to understand how to deal with"normal" people.

    Talk to the teachers and see what support they can introduce you to. Being able to ask for help is the first step - well done and I wish you success with your new mission.

    The meltdown sounds like an Asperger meltdown. You partner's response sounds like an Asperger's response. An Aspie is not likely to have much skill in dealing with children and an Aspie child will not respond well to discipline. I'm speaking as someone who was an Aspie child and was then an undiagnosed Aspie parent!

     

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