Newly Diagnosed 18-year-old Girl!

Hello everyone!

I just wanted to introduce myself to the group. I was recently diagnosed with autism last month. Looking back, I’ve always felt different, especially throughout my childhood and school years. College was particularly tough for me; the pressure of A-Levels combined with intense social anxiety led to burnout. That’s why I decided to take a gap year before heading to university.

This break gave me the time and space to reflect on my experiences in school and how my behaviour often differed from those around me. Over time, I began to recognise traits in myself that are commonly associated with autism, which eventually led me to seek a diagnosis. The process took about six months, so by the time I received confirmation, I had already started to come to terms with the likelihood of being autistic. As a result, I wasn’t too shocked when the diagnosis was confirmed.

Receiving the diagnosis brought a huge sense of relief. It gave me an explanation for so many aspects of my personality and behaviour that I’ve struggled to understand—and that others have often misunderstood. It’s helped me begin to make sense of myself, though I’m still adjusting and know that it will take time.

Even though I’m still early in my journey, I hope to eventually get involved in autism advocacy and contribute to charities. I especially want to raise awareness for girls and women who are often overlooked or misdiagnosed with conditions like anxiety or depression—something I personally went through. I spent a long time feeling alone and confused, and it wasn’t until I began learning about how autism presents in girls that I finally felt seen.

I’d really love to connect with others who’ve had similar experiences at school. I was always labelled as the "quiet girl" who rarely spoke, and that led to low self-esteem and social isolation. Making and maintaining friendships has always been a struggle for me, and at the moment, I don’t have any close friends, which can be very hard. Some days, it’s difficult to even leave the house.

Anyway, thank you for reading this long introduction! I’m just really grateful to have found a space with people who understand and share similar experiences.

Parents
  • I found school tough, but uni was a breath of fresh air. People were just more mature and more accepting. I still found it hard to make any real connections, but I felt I could relax a bit.

    My daughter started uni last year. Like you, she was also the quiet girl who found it hard to fit in in school. She was anxious about uni, but we told her to just follow a script and say, "Hi, I'm P—." to everyone in the first few weeks. She gave it a go, met some nice people and they've become good friends. She loves the whole uni experience and the absence of "the mean girls" from school. She seems much happier and more confident.

    It's great to read that you intend to "lean in" to your Autism and contribute to the community. Good on you. You'll probably meet your tribe and make great new friends. The best of luck.

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  • I found school tough, but uni was a breath of fresh air. People were just more mature and more accepting. I still found it hard to make any real connections, but I felt I could relax a bit.

    My daughter started uni last year. Like you, she was also the quiet girl who found it hard to fit in in school. She was anxious about uni, but we told her to just follow a script and say, "Hi, I'm P—." to everyone in the first few weeks. She gave it a go, met some nice people and they've become good friends. She loves the whole uni experience and the absence of "the mean girls" from school. She seems much happier and more confident.

    It's great to read that you intend to "lean in" to your Autism and contribute to the community. Good on you. You'll probably meet your tribe and make great new friends. The best of luck.

Children
  • Hi Damo, thank you for your message.

    That’s exactly what I’m looking forward to—the freedom from a toxic high school environment and the opportunity to meet new people who are a better match for me. Coming from a small town, it’s been really difficult to meet new people, so I’m excited for that change.

    I think university will be a great way to push myself out of my comfort zone, build my confidence, and get back into the routine of socialising. Right now, I can go days without seeing anyone, so being around people daily will hopefully help with that.

    Getting my diagnosis has been incredibly important to me. It’s given me a stronger sense of identity, and I’d really like to contribute to the community in any way I can.