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Newbie and need to offload

Marshmallow

Hi all, 

im new to this as have had no luck elsewhere, I'm 29 and mum to 3 year old girl and 8 (9 in 2 days) boy. My boy has a statement and has been diagnosed with ADHD and aspergers. He's a very intelligent boy and above average. He struggles with his anger and will lash out at anyone or anything in his path. He has been expelled from 3 schools due to his anger. And is currently doing well at his School, well was until recently. He is on medication which he only has for school as it suppresses his appetite so the weekends I tend to feed him up. I'm struggling with him as he is becoming more angry and has said on numerous occaisions he wants to die. Me and his dad split last year and it wasnt amicable, his dad is very bitter and has told my boy things a child doesn't need to hear. So I constantly get this abuse thrown in my face. Not sure what elsee to say or do. I Don't have anyone to talk to as they don't understand and actually make me angry when they try to diagnose what's going on. just need to offload and ask for help x

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  • Or maybe the ex has a personality disorder, or maybe he is just not very nice. I don't think everything should be blamed on Asperger's, particularly if the ex has no diagnosis. Neurotypicals can also be cold, vindictive and uncaring, so maybe his inability to compromise is due to his own personality.

    I have Asperger's and actually get upset when Asperger's is blamed for uncaring and vindictive behaviour. People with AS are not usually vindictive anyway, or at least no more than Neurotypicals.

    I don't want to start an argument, these are just my views, and I don't want to cause offence by expressing them. But I just felt I had to respond with an alternative view.

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  • Or maybe the ex has a personality disorder, or maybe he is just not very nice. I don't think everything should be blamed on Asperger's, particularly if the ex has no diagnosis. Neurotypicals can also be cold, vindictive and uncaring, so maybe his inability to compromise is due to his own personality.

    I have Asperger's and actually get upset when Asperger's is blamed for uncaring and vindictive behaviour. People with AS are not usually vindictive anyway, or at least no more than Neurotypicals.

    I don't want to start an argument, these are just my views, and I don't want to cause offence by expressing them. But I just felt I had to respond with an alternative view.

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