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Georgeporgy

Hello everyone 

i am keen to know if anyone has experience of aspergers, alcohol and depression. My dear brother is an aspie age 39 he is has recently been diagnosed through counselling for depression and has struggled for years socially. He seems unable to take meds for depression has tried a few. He as I have been through the sudden loss of our mother in a traffic accident 4 years ago, which he has struggled greatly with. He has been having private counselling for this which has helped greatly, although he is able to show all is going very well during the sessions, in reality at home things are not quite so rosy. He seems unable to stop using alcohol as a support when he finds life stressful and is using it to reward himself. I'd love to know where to start to find help to break this cycle. he has tried AA and now will not attend. He sees nothing wrong with this cycle. I am sure with support from people who understand Aspergers and depression he would  feel less in need of alcohol. His employer of 10 years has also just let him go, which he says he is happy about as they were nit picking his performance - I'm just worried he will take it to heart in the future and will be upset by it giving him reason to drink. Any ideas ???

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  • Thanks Coogybear for your help and advice it's really useful and makes a lot of sense. CBT sounds like it could help. I think he started off a few years ago with talking therapies and a little CBT,  through GP before any meds were tried, but now more recently a private counsellor Seems to get through and has been helping as he likes her ! When he has been more settled the alcohol has been less.  He strangely does not drink very much when he is out, his main consumption is at home alone in secret anr he denies it happens. Although recycling friday tells a very different story.  As you he has to want to give it up.  I think he would really benefit from meeting people who have been in similar situations and have autism, it may allow him the chance to chat things over and find some interests.  He loves photography and wants to play a guitar if he can motivate himself he may enjoy the reward. 

    Thanks again for your advice and good luck xx

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  • Thanks Coogybear for your help and advice it's really useful and makes a lot of sense. CBT sounds like it could help. I think he started off a few years ago with talking therapies and a little CBT,  through GP before any meds were tried, but now more recently a private counsellor Seems to get through and has been helping as he likes her ! When he has been more settled the alcohol has been less.  He strangely does not drink very much when he is out, his main consumption is at home alone in secret anr he denies it happens. Although recycling friday tells a very different story.  As you he has to want to give it up.  I think he would really benefit from meeting people who have been in similar situations and have autism, it may allow him the chance to chat things over and find some interests.  He loves photography and wants to play a guitar if he can motivate himself he may enjoy the reward. 

    Thanks again for your advice and good luck xx

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