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Hi Im not sure if anyone would have any suitable advice for me but would love some if you do. 

I have been going through court proceedings to see my daughter for 6 years now. During this time mother has a private diagnosis for asd and the professionals during proceedings agree with it. 

The issue thats arisen now is that my daughter says she doesn't want to see me and there is no reason why. Mother says this is a asd thing and when she doesn't want to do something they cant force her which also happens for drs/hospital appointments and also some missed days at school. 

I am having difficulties rebuilding my relationship with my daughter so dont really know what to suggest in respect of asd.

Any advise would be welcome Pray

Thanks

Sean 

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  • Autistic people dislike change and interruptions to routines. The break up of your family and consequent disruptions have probably quite severely affected your daughter, more so than an allistic child would have been. It is possible that she associates you with very negative feelings, and this is why you are having difficulties. She may see any contact with you as potentially being very unsettling and she is avoiding anything that might tend towards this happening.

    The only suggestion I have is that you make it plain that you do not want to interrupt her routines and normal daily life. For example, do not take her out of where and what she normally does, but try to integrate yourself into her life - picking her up from school or another activity, and taking her directly to her home might be an example of a possible way in.

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  • Autistic people dislike change and interruptions to routines. The break up of your family and consequent disruptions have probably quite severely affected your daughter, more so than an allistic child would have been. It is possible that she associates you with very negative feelings, and this is why you are having difficulties. She may see any contact with you as potentially being very unsettling and she is avoiding anything that might tend towards this happening.

    The only suggestion I have is that you make it plain that you do not want to interrupt her routines and normal daily life. For example, do not take her out of where and what she normally does, but try to integrate yourself into her life - picking her up from school or another activity, and taking her directly to her home might be an example of a possible way in.

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