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Hi Everyone!

I'm a single-parent mum, 44, to a 12 year old girl. We have, as a family, always found her 'tempremental' and 'awkward' as a younger child. She is super intelligent and very forward at expressing her views. By the way, I suspect my Dad has Aspergers although he has never been diagnosed. I left my marriage, as my husband was abusive towards me, when she was four and have struggled over the split and managing on my own. I initially thought that some of her difficult to manage behaviour was as a result of this. We've moved houses five times since.

Last September she started high school  - i knew she would find the transition difficult and did my best to help her, however, i did not realise how difficult it could be. She started with panic attacks and fainting, showing extreme anxiety in assemblies with lots of pupils, and her behaviour at home became very confrontational. She has a referral now to Camhs and they have raised the possibility of high-functioning autism? I have been reading up on this and a lot seems to fit. I just wondered if anyone has teenagers with this condition or has received a diagnoses with an older child? At the moment i'm feeling very scared and unsure and even guilty... I would love to hear some reassurances? Thanks for reading this!

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  • Hi there,  My daughter is 16 and has just been diagnosed with Autism (aspergers).  Too be very honest my daughter wanted out of school as quick as she went into it.  She left School with passing her exams although not with great results, but she passed. She is only now really starting to struggle with life due to being in college and with all the pressures that comes with that.  I usually need to sit down and help organise her homework with her to help ease the stress a bit. But to be quite honest we have been muddling through for the last few years especially.   On the other hand with the diagnosis we have the 'it explains a lot' attitude towards it.  All you can do is to try work out what will help her deal with her stressful situations and have a word with her guidance/ pastoral care teacher and he/she might be able to help you both out. 

    All the best

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  • Hi there,  My daughter is 16 and has just been diagnosed with Autism (aspergers).  Too be very honest my daughter wanted out of school as quick as she went into it.  She left School with passing her exams although not with great results, but she passed. She is only now really starting to struggle with life due to being in college and with all the pressures that comes with that.  I usually need to sit down and help organise her homework with her to help ease the stress a bit. But to be quite honest we have been muddling through for the last few years especially.   On the other hand with the diagnosis we have the 'it explains a lot' attitude towards it.  All you can do is to try work out what will help her deal with her stressful situations and have a word with her guidance/ pastoral care teacher and he/she might be able to help you both out. 

    All the best

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