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Ms23

I just need some advice really, I keep having hyper fixations for weeks at a time and just wanted some help on how to try and stop them, I’ve recently lost my job of 8 years and the routine I used to have helped me but now I don’t have that routine, I’m not a very confident person, I hate being in social situations, I find it hard talking to new people, I’m stressing over money as I have 2 children, I keep having hyper fixations over starting a buying and selling business and moving to Spain, I can’t make myself understand it’s a goal to be aiming for but my minds like it has to be done now and you need to do it now, I don’t have any savings to be able to invest in and I don’t want to get myself into debt either, if anyone can share so coping strategies or any advice on what I can do to stop these it would be much appreciated, thankyou

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  • Instead of fighting it, go with it. Make a plan, talk to people and research it.

    Usually when I have had some idea, as soon as I look into it I find some showstoppers, or when I think about it in detail and what life would really be like it does not seem so good, like no friends, no language, no food, too hot, etc. Also if you have a UK passport you can't live and work in Spain without a visa.

    You need to burst the bubble. You probably have some fantasy story in your head that isn't real. It is chasing the fantasy that draws you in. So you have to somehow see it is not how it would really be.

    You might find the effort of planning it and the researching is enough to fulfil the need.

    However, you can come up with a plan and the research shows you fantasy is possible, then go do it. Why not. Other people do.

    Not all crazy ideas are impossible, but most have some risk, just leave yourself a way out. With children you need to be a bit responsible though.

    Dreams are what keep people going. If not now then maybe plan for the future.

    I have some idea in my head at the moment that won't go away. I am going to do something and see what happens.

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  • Instead of fighting it, go with it. Make a plan, talk to people and research it.

    Usually when I have had some idea, as soon as I look into it I find some showstoppers, or when I think about it in detail and what life would really be like it does not seem so good, like no friends, no language, no food, too hot, etc. Also if you have a UK passport you can't live and work in Spain without a visa.

    You need to burst the bubble. You probably have some fantasy story in your head that isn't real. It is chasing the fantasy that draws you in. So you have to somehow see it is not how it would really be.

    You might find the effort of planning it and the researching is enough to fulfil the need.

    However, you can come up with a plan and the research shows you fantasy is possible, then go do it. Why not. Other people do.

    Not all crazy ideas are impossible, but most have some risk, just leave yourself a way out. With children you need to be a bit responsible though.

    Dreams are what keep people going. If not now then maybe plan for the future.

    I have some idea in my head at the moment that won't go away. I am going to do something and see what happens.

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  • in reply to Stuart333

    its more of the slow paced lifestyle, ive been to spain about 10 times and ive always just wanted to stay there, they care more about having the family time, better work life balance, slower paced, i just feel free when i go, its the place i go when i need to just forget about everything and just reconnect with myself, i know atm you cant just live there unless you get a certain visa like a digital nomad and stuff like that, i dont have the funds to be able to purchase a property atm either. i know its a dream, ive researched where i want to move to and everything, the type of house i want, im currently doing an accountancy course to get my qualification in that too, my buying and selling fixation is because ive seen so many video of people making money like that my head is telling me i should be doing that and now it just wont leave my head. im not great with computers i find it hard understanding stuff, like ive been researching into buying and selling for weeks and i still dont know where to start or whats good to resell.i dont have the knowledge of items in demand, i just want space out my own head, ive tried going for a walk in the great outdoors but my mind isnt free, its taking over my day to day life.