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Don’t know where to get help

BlueSkies

Hi all

i could do with some advice please

i am struggling with my living conditi9ns due to anti social behaviour and feeling unsafe, I have to self harm to cope, a homeless application was submitted to the council about 3 months ago but they said because I physically haven’t been attacked they won’t help (I have a complaint pending) 

In April I went and spoke to an equality centre and while I was there they rang my dr and asked them to make an emergency referral for my mh due to my self harming, the next day the dr sent me a txt message telling me to contact another organisation, due to my autism I find it hard to talk to people, I put a complaint in and they said third party shouldn’t be calling the gp on my behalf and that if I’m in crisis to ring SPA which I have many times but they don’t do anything 

nhs111 made an appointment with a social worker at my cmht who I’ve had issues with and have had to put complaints in to as they make my mh worse, anyway I answered this social workers questions, telling him I’ve recently been diagnosed with autism, he said I should make a referral to the council social workers, I told him I did but they said because I can walk and talk they won’t help me, I said I’m speaking to a social worker now you should be helping me that’s why the referral was done, but he kept saying I need to refer to the council social worker not listening that the referral got declined (a complaint is also in to them) so I ended up storming out if the cmht and put a complaint in, although it hasn’t been acknowledged or replied to, so I rang nhs111 telling them not to refer me to a service that isn’t going to help instead make me worse, but they just said that’s the only place I can be referred to as I’m open to themRage

I spoke to Mencap who told me because I haven’t been diagnosed as having a learning disability they won’t help, but no one will do a learning disability assessment 

I just don’t know where and who can help

sorry about the long post 

  • Dear BlueSkies, 

    Thank you for telling the community what you are going through. I am very sorry to hear that you are struggling with your living situation and have felt like you needed to self harm to cope.

    The NAS website has advice and guidance on living support available in the UK:
     https://www.autism.org.uk/advice-and-guidance/topics/social-care/social-care-england/support-available

     If you are unable to cope with the distress or despair, it’s very important to tell someone about your feelings or thoughts of suicide. Call your GP and make an urgent appointment. Your GP can make sure you get appropriate help and support

    The National Autistic Society does not currently operate a crisis or emergency service. We advise you to contact 999 or any of the mental health crisis lines listed on our Urgent Help Page if you are at risk of immediate harm: www.autism.org.uk/.../urgent-help

    If you are not at immediate risk of harm, we would encourage you to speak to your GP or another health professional about this if you haven’t done so already. If it’s outside your GP hours call 111 to reach the NHS 111 service: www.nhs.uk/.../

    You may also find the following useful:

    Samaritans: Call 116 123 for free, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year.

    Mind Infoline: 0300 1233393 for information and signposting (9am to 6pm, Monday to Friday) 

    SANEline: 0300 304 7000 for anyone experiencing a mental health problem or supporting someone else (4.30pm to 10.30pm, every day) 

    Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM): for men 0800 58 58 58, (5pm to midnight every day).   ·

    Shout 85258: a free, confidential, 24/7 text messaging support service for anyone struggling to cope.

    I hope this is helpful to you.

    Kind regards

    Gina Mod

  • Just rang SPA as my gp keeps telling me to and they are useless said they couldn’t help, so rang nhs111 and it’s the same people as the same person answered, I was told that when I rang nhs111 last week a request for the gp and cmht to contact me and neither have, I asked if she could follow it up to be told no, they don’t keep work loads 

  • in reply to Stuart333

    Thanks Stuart, citizens advice have not been helpful maybe I’m just not lucky and have a bad service in my area

  • in reply to Aaron

    Thank you for the reply, it is appreciated, unfortunately I don’t like talking to people but I need practical help, I contacted shout and it was like having a conversation with a bot

  • I am really sorry to hear what you’re going through. I have found something that may help.

    If you just need to talk, any time of day or night

    Free listening services

    These services offer confidential support from trained volunteers. You can talk about anything that's troubling you, no matter how difficult:

    • Call 116 123 to talk to Samaritans, or email: jo@samaritans.org for a reply within 24 hours
    • Text "SHOUT" to 85258 to contact the Shout Crisis Text Line
    • Call 0800 585 858 to talk to Calm (if you're 15 years old or over) or use CALM webchat, both available from 5pm to midnight every day
    • Call 0800 068 4141, text 07860 039967 or email pat@papyrus-uk.orgto contact HOPELINE247, available 24 hours a day

    If you're under 19, you can also call 0800 1111 to talk to Childline. The number will not appear on your phone bill.

    These services will only share your information if they are very worried about you or think you are in immediate danger.

  • I don't know if citizens advice can help. You can chat to them online mon-fri in office hours.