Weight lifted!

Hello there.  This website has lifted a huge weight which I have been living with for the last 5 years.  I am the girlfriend of a highly intelligent, funny, silly, hard working man (41).  Last year Simon said to me that he had seen some information on Aspergers and said that "It was him".  I had never really known about it before, and we never really discussed it.  It wasn't until recently that after yet another huge fall out about his lack of empathy/rudeness etc that he posted a newspaper artical through my door.  It was written by the partner of an adult male who had undiagnosed aspergers.  Suddenly everything made sense!!  It described my boyfriend exactly.  We have had so many fall outs over the years, and now I understand what has been happening.  I have been in touch with a cousellor who specialises in Autism and Aspergers, and after thinking about it/worrying about it for a week or two, I am hoping he is finally going to speak to her this evening. 

Is there any help?  Can he learn new behaviours (eg. to give me a cuddle/realise I am upset etc)?  

I love Simon dearly and would love nothing better than to have a family together.  Is there hope?

Thanks for reading. Smile 

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  • Thank you Puffin,

     

    I do love him very much or I wouldn't still be with him (on and off) after 5 years!  He has a good heart and soul and is a big softy.  He is AMAZING with children, and am sure he would make an excellent (if at times annoying) father.  I guess I knew something was wrong a while ago after everyone I knew told me to leave him time and time again, I just knew in my heart of hearts he wasn't doing anything to intentionally upset me.  Now I know about the condition I am hoping I can adapt my ways and it feels a lot easier knowing what it is. 

    I will look into ordering some books as you suggest.  Thank you so much for your comment.  Nice to hear from a partner. Smile

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  • Thank you Puffin,

     

    I do love him very much or I wouldn't still be with him (on and off) after 5 years!  He has a good heart and soul and is a big softy.  He is AMAZING with children, and am sure he would make an excellent (if at times annoying) father.  I guess I knew something was wrong a while ago after everyone I knew told me to leave him time and time again, I just knew in my heart of hearts he wasn't doing anything to intentionally upset me.  Now I know about the condition I am hoping I can adapt my ways and it feels a lot easier knowing what it is. 

    I will look into ordering some books as you suggest.  Thank you so much for your comment.  Nice to hear from a partner. Smile

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