18 Year Old Daughter Help

I am wondering if anyone can help - I am unsure if going to the waiting lists at the GP are worth it and what additional help my daughter would get if diagnosed.

My daughter has always been the quiet one, I people watcher.  We have always had a routine of childminder / school, whilst i was at work and after school / work football/swimming/boxing.  If football got cancelled we would have tears/tantrums etc, which seemed a bit over the top at the time.

When we went into lockdown (which i think was particularly hard for a lot of people) she would sit on top of the shed on her own, couldn't concentrate when we would try and do the online lessons, unless I set up a PE session in the garden she wouldn't engage in much.

When we tried to go back to school we would have issues with her stomach, and needing a toilet pass, which i thought was a bit of anxiety due to being back around people.

She couldn't concentrate in her exams and needed to leave the room for the toilet, she started college resat her maths in a smaller group and luckily just passed.

She started a joinery apprenticeship, loved the hands on college side but struggled to interact with the people working there, I don't think she understood their humour and couldn't interact properly, she also thought some didn't like her.

She is now playing at a football college and again, struggling with interacting with the teachers and staff, also her football manager, there have been a few issues, she seems to react to the way her may look at her or his tone and takes everything as a personal attack.

She has been making funny noises, maybe a nervous tick, she can go from being completely quiet in front of people, to screaming and shouting noises and funny accents, when we get home she goes loud and excited, toy fighting, jumping out on me and running off, its like she's held in all this energy and just explodes! 

She is obsessive about clean bedding.... but not the tidiness of her room so it surely cant be a form of OCD?

I have tried so many different ways to approach it, telling her to try harder to concentrate and get her work done when she was at school, her stomach issues are not food related, its like her stomach reacts to how she is feeling that day.

I have come here for help and given you a snippet of my daughters behaviour, as a parent off my daughters football team came up to me on Sunday and asked if she has a form of Autism, does an of the above ring true to this?

I don't want to waste anyone's time but also, if I can get any help to settle her I would be forever grateful, its like she's a lot soul at the minute and she's 18, 19 in July.

Thanks

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  • We are not permitted to make a medical diagnosis on this site, whatever we may think, or whatever evidence you provide.  

    That said, it is clear that you are concerned, and the best way to deal with this is via an assessment.  It does sound as if there are grounds to take the step to approach your GP, should your daughter wish to do so. 

    You ask if the waiting lists are worth it, and that depends on what you feel (or what your daughter would feel, at 18) is to be gained from a potential diagnosis.  

    I don't want to put words in her mouth, but it should be her decision - not mine to tell you why I think it would be advantageous.  

    If you proceed, it is certainly true that the NHS wait is likely to be long, but if you are in England you are entitled to use the Right to Choose scheme as an alternative.  You can speak to your GP about this too.  

    I do wish you (both) well going forward. 

  • I understand that, and thanks for the reply, it was more for guidance on if some of the behaviour I mentioned was in line with possibly being autistic, as it isn't something I am familiar with, before I approached it.

    I googled it after it was mentioned to me, and this site came up, I will speak to my daughter and email the GP surgery if she wants to, thank you very much, after it was mentioned its played on my mind, if there is anything I can do to help her in her day to day life.

    Thanks

  • With respect, I can understand 18 is a difficult age in terms of a person is then responsible for their own healthcare decisions, yet a parent will still retain the instinct to look out for them.  

    I'd not be advising you contact your GP if I didn't think (from your descriptors) that there were matters worthy of consideration.  

    It is likely that the GP may wish to give your daughter an AQ10 or AQ50 spectrum quotient test to better understand her, as part of their evaluation.  This is normal, and a pre-cursor to an eventual assessment. 

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  • With respect, I can understand 18 is a difficult age in terms of a person is then responsible for their own healthcare decisions, yet a parent will still retain the instinct to look out for them.  

    I'd not be advising you contact your GP if I didn't think (from your descriptors) that there were matters worthy of consideration.  

    It is likely that the GP may wish to give your daughter an AQ10 or AQ50 spectrum quotient test to better understand her, as part of their evaluation.  This is normal, and a pre-cursor to an eventual assessment. 

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