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An Introduction from the Confused

chubsntubs

Hi Everyone

I've just signed up today - and honestly, I'm really hoping that by hopping on to this Community I'll be able to get some clarification that I'm not going entirely insane all the time (I joke!).

A little intro with my reason for reaching out, I've signed up on behalf of my OH and I; we are a married, neurodivergent household, and expecting our first child; this is making things really tense as unfortunately ND1 (M) does not engage in difficult conversations with me; ND2 (F), instead immediately shutting down the conversation with sharp comments or exiting the room.

We obviously have a REALLY exciting time ahead of us, but there are conversations that need to be had around bringing another person into our lives; has anyone got any top tips on how we can successfully communicate this between ourselves better?

TIA <3

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  • Good luck with the Bun in the Oven.

    It's hard when a couple are similar, it's like there's rivalry. Sometimes couples with different interests complement each other better. However, it's an adventure.

    Fear often prevents us from discussing important topics.

    First things first, discuss who'll look after the baby and who'll be the breadwinner. A child needs stability.

    Also, budgeting is imperative. Money is often the Elephant in the Room. Go through your ingoings and outgoings. See how you can get by, without depriving yourself.

    In this world, we're all 'too busy'. Quality time is vital. What are your interests?

  • in reply to Desmond1979

    Thank you for your reply! 
    That's some really helpful things for us to think about - I know it sounds a bit lame but with our work we don't have much time to explore our interests at the moment. One thing I'm concerned may come to a head when one of us has more (albeit occupied), time on our hands Slight smile

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  • in reply to Desmond1979

    Thank you for your reply! 
    That's some really helpful things for us to think about - I know it sounds a bit lame but with our work we don't have much time to explore our interests at the moment. One thing I'm concerned may come to a head when one of us has more (albeit occupied), time on our hands Slight smile

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