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An Introduction from the Confused

chubsntubs

Hi Everyone

I've just signed up today - and honestly, I'm really hoping that by hopping on to this Community I'll be able to get some clarification that I'm not going entirely insane all the time (I joke!).

A little intro with my reason for reaching out, I've signed up on behalf of my OH and I; we are a married, neurodivergent household, and expecting our first child; this is making things really tense as unfortunately ND1 (M) does not engage in difficult conversations with me; ND2 (F), instead immediately shutting down the conversation with sharp comments or exiting the room.

We obviously have a REALLY exciting time ahead of us, but there are conversations that need to be had around bringing another person into our lives; has anyone got any top tips on how we can successfully communicate this between ourselves better?

TIA <3

Parents

  • I can relate a bit too how you are describing your partner as I struggle talking about personal things, to anybody. Still trying to properly understand whty this is the case for me. Most of the time at least for me when it’s a tricky conversation I find written communication far easier to deal with. The whole verbal thing I find much harder and more energy sapping. I also agree with Lotus’ point around timing, I really struggle with being surprised or ambushed with difficult things. 

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  • I can relate a bit too how you are describing your partner as I struggle talking about personal things, to anybody. Still trying to properly understand whty this is the case for me. Most of the time at least for me when it’s a tricky conversation I find written communication far easier to deal with. The whole verbal thing I find much harder and more energy sapping. I also agree with Lotus’ point around timing, I really struggle with being surprised or ambushed with difficult things. 

Children
  • in reply to White_Dragon

    Thank you for your reply, your feedback is really helpful and I'm glad to see more than one person has suggested writing things down - hopefully this will break some communication barriers for us Slight smile