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An Introduction from the Confused

chubsntubs

Hi Everyone

I've just signed up today - and honestly, I'm really hoping that by hopping on to this Community I'll be able to get some clarification that I'm not going entirely insane all the time (I joke!).

A little intro with my reason for reaching out, I've signed up on behalf of my OH and I; we are a married, neurodivergent household, and expecting our first child; this is making things really tense as unfortunately ND1 (M) does not engage in difficult conversations with me; ND2 (F), instead immediately shutting down the conversation with sharp comments or exiting the room.

We obviously have a REALLY exciting time ahead of us, but there are conversations that need to be had around bringing another person into our lives; has anyone got any top tips on how we can successfully communicate this between ourselves better?

TIA <3

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  • Hi and welcome to the community. I'm a woman an ND-ND long term relationship (over 40 years)

    It's difficult to advise without knowing what the difficult conversations are about, but your partner is shutting down or coming close to a meltdown, so it is obviously making him anxious. Maybe explore why he is feeling that way and what could be done to make him feel more comfortable.

    Also, I'd advise monitoring your and your partner's moods and energy levels. We cannot discuss difficult things or make decisions when we're overloaded or low in energy, so pick the right moment.

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  • Hi and welcome to the community. I'm a woman an ND-ND long term relationship (over 40 years)

    It's difficult to advise without knowing what the difficult conversations are about, but your partner is shutting down or coming close to a meltdown, so it is obviously making him anxious. Maybe explore why he is feeling that way and what could be done to make him feel more comfortable.

    Also, I'd advise monitoring your and your partner's moods and energy levels. We cannot discuss difficult things or make decisions when we're overloaded or low in energy, so pick the right moment.

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