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11 year old daughter

Astar678

My daughter has just been diagnosed with autism even though we were pretty sure for many years.

we are struggling to get her to school as she has this contant worry over her hair. She has had it in plats for years and years and years and asks my wife to redo it over and over again. This escalates into my daughter having huge meltdowns and my wife gets so stressed as a result as we also have my little boy to get to school.

we just do not know what to do. We have tried everything.

does anyone have any suggestions?

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  • Hi Astar678,

    The behaviours that you describe are bona fide neurodiverse symptomology. Change is a significant hurdle for the autistic community members. It is nothing new or to be concerned about, although I appreciate the difficulties it causes for your family. Unfortunately, there is no 'quick fix' and as others have alluded, it is about forming a consistent routine. Try not to be too hard on yourselves, there are parents of autistic children who have to plan journeys weeks, if not months, in advance.

    On a more positive note (sort of), now that your daughter has an official diagnosis, these behaviours must be taken into consideration by institutions. So if, for example, it is the school that is asking for an alternative hairstyle, you are well within your rights to ask that reasonable adjustments are made to be more accommodating or an extension on timings so morning isn't such a flash point. I can only surmise what will work best for you all.

    The NAS website has masses of information on EVERYTHING related to Autism, or you can Google The Equality Act 2010 to get the ball rolling on this particular issue. It will also serve you to be fully educated moving forward. 

    No doubt this period will be disconcerting for all concerned.

    I genuinely wish you all the best for the future. 

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  • Hi Astar678,

    The behaviours that you describe are bona fide neurodiverse symptomology. Change is a significant hurdle for the autistic community members. It is nothing new or to be concerned about, although I appreciate the difficulties it causes for your family. Unfortunately, there is no 'quick fix' and as others have alluded, it is about forming a consistent routine. Try not to be too hard on yourselves, there are parents of autistic children who have to plan journeys weeks, if not months, in advance.

    On a more positive note (sort of), now that your daughter has an official diagnosis, these behaviours must be taken into consideration by institutions. So if, for example, it is the school that is asking for an alternative hairstyle, you are well within your rights to ask that reasonable adjustments are made to be more accommodating or an extension on timings so morning isn't such a flash point. I can only surmise what will work best for you all.

    The NAS website has masses of information on EVERYTHING related to Autism, or you can Google The Equality Act 2010 to get the ball rolling on this particular issue. It will also serve you to be fully educated moving forward. 

    No doubt this period will be disconcerting for all concerned.

    I genuinely wish you all the best for the future. 

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