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48, diagnosed yesterday, Well, didn’t expect to feel like this !

Gareth

Good morning all ! 

I was diagnosed 2 days ago with ASD ! Still awaiting my full NHS diagnosis report, but was told on the spot at the end of my first 3.5 appt.

How does everybody deal with this sudden complete overload of you now pulling your 48 years of life to pieces, it’s a nuts combo of emotions, relief, clarity, guilt, anger, resentment, sadness…..and just the overriding questions of what’s this now going to be like and how’s it going to change me and how the hell has nobody historically seen this lol ?

I know there’s no set way of processing this, everybody will be different, just curious to how others, particularly at my age range dealt with it in their first few days and weeks ?

Thanks for reading….

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  • Gareth said:
    How does everybody deal with this sudden complete overload of you now pulling your 48 years of life to pieces,

    I looked at is as I am no different today than I was the day before the assessment so I have not changed. I now have more knowledge about why I think and behave the way I do so I can choose to make changes here if I wish but other than that life goes on as before.

    I was quick to get a psychotherapist to work though my main traits that were causing me issues and get to understand them more fully so I could develop an approach to them which took the sting out of the tail. I cannot recommend this option enough.

    Just make sure if you get a therapist that they are very well versed in dealing with autists as there are lots who lack this experience and - it seems from others experiences here - lack the necessary knowledge to be useful.

    I got my diagnosis at aged 52 (male) and didn't have much time to spend on thinking too much about it (2 full time jobs on the go) which probably helped.

    My approach to the issues of past and future were to try to compartmentalise them to the therapy time windows and some time I could set aside at weekends - I couldn't change the past so the guilt was a wasted emotion. I can learn from it and that was where I focussed my efforts.

    It soulds like we do things quite differently but this was my approach and I think it worked very well for me.

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  • Gareth said:
    How does everybody deal with this sudden complete overload of you now pulling your 48 years of life to pieces,

    I looked at is as I am no different today than I was the day before the assessment so I have not changed. I now have more knowledge about why I think and behave the way I do so I can choose to make changes here if I wish but other than that life goes on as before.

    I was quick to get a psychotherapist to work though my main traits that were causing me issues and get to understand them more fully so I could develop an approach to them which took the sting out of the tail. I cannot recommend this option enough.

    Just make sure if you get a therapist that they are very well versed in dealing with autists as there are lots who lack this experience and - it seems from others experiences here - lack the necessary knowledge to be useful.

    I got my diagnosis at aged 52 (male) and didn't have much time to spend on thinking too much about it (2 full time jobs on the go) which probably helped.

    My approach to the issues of past and future were to try to compartmentalise them to the therapy time windows and some time I could set aside at weekends - I couldn't change the past so the guilt was a wasted emotion. I can learn from it and that was where I focussed my efforts.

    It soulds like we do things quite differently but this was my approach and I think it worked very well for me.

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