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Sparkey077

Hi, thought I would try to introduce myself. I am recently diagnosed autistic and adhd at 50yrs old. Joined here to speak to fellow ND people and find some community. I am trying to learn to navigate this world and find out how to advocate for myself since being given a massive piece of the puzzle that’s been missing my whole life. I am finding society harder than ever to manage.

I am quite solitary nowadays and enjoy a peaceful existence, finding most comfort in nature and under a tree canopy. 
Life has been a constant struggle and while growing up I found lots of quite unhealthy coping mechanism's to deal with what I now know was undiagnosed autism and ADHD. Thankfully today I don’t turn to them as been in recovery for around 10 years. 

Recently really struggling with being misunderstood and I have found myself in conflict with people while trying to stand up for myself and not be bullied. It’s really hard to advocate for yourself when having a meltdown I now know. I hope someone can relate. Experience welcomed. 

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  • Hi, I'm early 50s and diagnosed a couple of years ago (also my other half will be 10 yrs in recovery this year too!).  I would say that if you're having a meltdown, you need to deal with that as your number 1 priority by getting somewhere you feel safe, that's not the time to advocate for anything. 

    What might help is if, at a different time, you can let people around you know what you might need in that situation, appreciate you may not know that, for me I mostly want to be left alone.

    The conflict stuff I really struggle with, I tend to over-analyse and over-think stuff multiple times as I'm so worried about creating conflict and want the best outcome for everyone.  So the courses Iain suggests might help, although I find some courses are very NT oriented.  What I am starting to do is re-evaluate whether it is worth the effort trying to explain to someone or if it is better to say 'whatever' and walk away, putting that into practice is more tricky if I feel a sense of injustice!

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  • Hi, I'm early 50s and diagnosed a couple of years ago (also my other half will be 10 yrs in recovery this year too!).  I would say that if you're having a meltdown, you need to deal with that as your number 1 priority by getting somewhere you feel safe, that's not the time to advocate for anything. 

    What might help is if, at a different time, you can let people around you know what you might need in that situation, appreciate you may not know that, for me I mostly want to be left alone.

    The conflict stuff I really struggle with, I tend to over-analyse and over-think stuff multiple times as I'm so worried about creating conflict and want the best outcome for everyone.  So the courses Iain suggests might help, although I find some courses are very NT oriented.  What I am starting to do is re-evaluate whether it is worth the effort trying to explain to someone or if it is better to say 'whatever' and walk away, putting that into practice is more tricky if I feel a sense of injustice!

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