Looking for friends

Hi, I have autism and adhd. Most of the time I'm pretty good at masking and just avoid things that I know will trigger me.

I live in Wellingborough, Northamptonshire and was wondering if it's possible to find like minded people to hang out with. I'm not looking for meet ups where we sit around discussing how misunderstood or rejected we are, what conditions we have or how difficult life is. I'd much rather go for a walk by the lake, have a meal, etc.

I understand triggers snd sensory sensitivities - trust me. But in my mind, I always have two choices - I an stay home because I don't like bright lights or loud noise, or I can grab sunglasses and earplugs and go out. I haven't been going much, because I get annoyed or bored being surrounded by only neuro typical people and also it's draining to have to pretend all the time that I'm like them (small talk and all that stuff). So I figured out that maybe I could try hanging out with other neuridivergent people - whether highly functional, or barely functional, or just trying their best - someone who doesn't need constant attention, pity, or care, but are up for a normal walk, or meal, or casual catch up.

If anyone is interested, let me know.

Parents
  • Hi I am not close to where you live but we can be online friends if you want. I also have ASD and ADHD. Major depression reoccurring, it's easy to isolate but I also would like more like minded people in my life 

  • Hey, thank you <3 I hope you are finding ways to cope with depression and neurodiversity.

    I’m sorry for the late reply! A nasty flu-like thing has knocked me out for quite a while. The first week was pure torture - just lying in bed, unable to sleep, eat, or move. Then the second week, it turned into a bad cold. After that, as I started recovering, I had to catch up on life - grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning - and I completely forgot about the online world.

    This pretty much sums up what kind of online friend I’d be - ADHD at full throttle, with my focus jumping all over the place, easily distracted, and chasing excitement wherever it leads. That said, if you're on Facebook, we could connect there! I love seeing what people share - it’s like a window into their world, and you can learn so much from it.

Reply
  • Hey, thank you <3 I hope you are finding ways to cope with depression and neurodiversity.

    I’m sorry for the late reply! A nasty flu-like thing has knocked me out for quite a while. The first week was pure torture - just lying in bed, unable to sleep, eat, or move. Then the second week, it turned into a bad cold. After that, as I started recovering, I had to catch up on life - grocery shopping, laundry, cleaning - and I completely forgot about the online world.

    This pretty much sums up what kind of online friend I’d be - ADHD at full throttle, with my focus jumping all over the place, easily distracted, and chasing excitement wherever it leads. That said, if you're on Facebook, we could connect there! I love seeing what people share - it’s like a window into their world, and you can learn so much from it.

Children
No Data