Looking for friends

Hi, I have autism and adhd. Most of the time I'm pretty good at masking and just avoid things that I know will trigger me.

I live in Wellingborough, Northamptonshire and was wondering if it's possible to find like minded people to hang out with. I'm not looking for meet ups where we sit around discussing how misunderstood or rejected we are, what conditions we have or how difficult life is. I'd much rather go for a walk by the lake, have a meal, etc.

I understand triggers snd sensory sensitivities - trust me. But in my mind, I always have two choices - I an stay home because I don't like bright lights or loud noise, or I can grab sunglasses and earplugs and go out. I haven't been going much, because I get annoyed or bored being surrounded by only neuro typical people and also it's draining to have to pretend all the time that I'm like them (small talk and all that stuff). So I figured out that maybe I could try hanging out with other neuridivergent people - whether highly functional, or barely functional, or just trying their best - someone who doesn't need constant attention, pity, or care, but are up for a normal walk, or meal, or casual catch up.

If anyone is interested, let me know.

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  • I would love to! But I’m far away in Germany. Just wanted to let you know, this is exactly what I need and would be happy to do! And I also do same - earplugs, sunglasses and fresh air on my face!

  • Soft and fluffy clothes do the job too Slight smile

    Sorry you're so far away, hopefully some people there realise that there are people who want to get together, not because they're miserable or desperate, but because they get bored, drained or annoyed with neuro typicals, but still want to have some social life.

  • It’s complicated, what I observe here in Germany within the online community to me sounds like: there are already too many people diagnosed with autism and generally quite much hate towards everyone and yes this miserable feelings too. I went through this long before knowing I might be autistic and don’t wanna go back. Just decided to appreciate what I have and try to work or figure out what else can be done to improve. I love walks with a coffee to take away here I have many beautiful places to look at so I can just stand and watch and sometimes talk when there is some meaningful topic. 

  • I love the lake from you photo! Definitely would go there with you and coffee for walk 

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