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micca

Hi, I have autism and adhd. Most of the time I'm pretty good at masking and just avoid things that I know will trigger me.

I live in Wellingborough, Northamptonshire and was wondering if it's possible to find like minded people to hang out with. I'm not looking for meet ups where we sit around discussing how misunderstood or rejected we are, what conditions we have or how difficult life is. I'd much rather go for a walk by the lake, have a meal, etc.

I understand triggers snd sensory sensitivities - trust me. But in my mind, I always have two choices - I an stay home because I don't like bright lights or loud noise, or I can grab sunglasses and earplugs and go out. I haven't been going much, because I get annoyed or bored being surrounded by only neuro typical people and also it's draining to have to pretend all the time that I'm like them (small talk and all that stuff). So I figured out that maybe I could try hanging out with other neuridivergent people - whether highly functional, or barely functional, or just trying their best - someone who doesn't need constant attention, pity, or care, but are up for a normal walk, or meal, or casual catch up.

If anyone is interested, let me know.

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  • Hi welcome to the community. Good luck in your quest to meet likd-minded people. Have you also thought of local asd groups in your area? Where I live there was a local special needs group in the library before it closed down. I wish there were more groups.

    I hope you make some friends. Enjoy the community Slight smile

  • in reply to Hopscotch Queen Since 2015

    Hi, thank you. I've come across a few groups, but most of the discussions were about diagnoses and complaints about sensitivity to light or noise. That is not really my thing. Everyone has their struggles, but we can either focus on them all the time or do what most people do, like go out for a meal, take a walk, or talk about things we are learning or working toward. So far, I havenn't found neurodivergent people who just want to do something normal or have everyday conversations.

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  • in reply to Hopscotch Queen Since 2015

    Hi, thank you. I've come across a few groups, but most of the discussions were about diagnoses and complaints about sensitivity to light or noise. That is not really my thing. Everyone has their struggles, but we can either focus on them all the time or do what most people do, like go out for a meal, take a walk, or talk about things we are learning or working toward. So far, I havenn't found neurodivergent people who just want to do something normal or have everyday conversations.

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