Newly diagnosed 47yo man

Hello all. 

I have just been diagnosed with Autism and adhd after spending my life feeling like the odd one, which has had significant detriment on my mental health over the years. 

Im reaching out because I been anxious waiting for the diagnosis and now I have it I don't know how I feel. I tried to talk to my wife about this and she just said nothings changed and just carry on as you are. But I think 'as I am' wasn't me really and 'as i am' was depressed and anxious constantly. 

So I don't know what to do as I don't want the diagnosis to be just a thing, i finally feel with it i can explain and ask for changes in my life to help me but if im expected to  still have to carry on as I am i dont know if i can. I want to be able to be me for a change without having to mask. But feel everone expects me to just carry on the same. 

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  • I got diagnosed last year at 44. I know I'm outnumbered in this world so I stick to hobbies and the internet, it's very fustrating. I don't fit in anywhere and I don't really want to. People are cruel and I can't stand them anymore. A big problem for me is the nagging expectations of family, society, and having enough money when I'm old. 

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  • I got diagnosed last year at 44. I know I'm outnumbered in this world so I stick to hobbies and the internet, it's very fustrating. I don't fit in anywhere and I don't really want to. People are cruel and I can't stand them anymore. A big problem for me is the nagging expectations of family, society, and having enough money when I'm old. 

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