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Newly diagnosed 47yo man

Waynelee10

Hello all. 

I have just been diagnosed with Autism and adhd after spending my life feeling like the odd one, which has had significant detriment on my mental health over the years. 

Im reaching out because I been anxious waiting for the diagnosis and now I have it I don't know how I feel. I tried to talk to my wife about this and she just said nothings changed and just carry on as you are. But I think 'as I am' wasn't me really and 'as i am' was depressed and anxious constantly. 

So I don't know what to do as I don't want the diagnosis to be just a thing, i finally feel with it i can explain and ask for changes in my life to help me but if im expected to  still have to carry on as I am i dont know if i can. I want to be able to be me for a change without having to mask. But feel everone expects me to just carry on the same. 

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  • Hi,

    I was diagnosed in my early 40’s. To be honest, in my experience, there is an element of “just carrying on”. It’s going to take time for you to fully understand the new you, what your triggers are and how to manage them. For me I found that supermarkets are a big one. I was always really anxious and short tempered in busy supermarkets. It wasn’t until I got noise cancelling head phones that I realised I can’t deal with the plethora of noises that occurred. Now I can go to the supermarket with far less of an issue. If I go with my wife we split the shopping list, I put my headphones on and go off to get my bits and we meet at the end.

    Just give yourself time, the anxiety and depressive episode will subside over time, but you have to find what causes them and put measures in place to help you.

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  • Hi,

    I was diagnosed in my early 40’s. To be honest, in my experience, there is an element of “just carrying on”. It’s going to take time for you to fully understand the new you, what your triggers are and how to manage them. For me I found that supermarkets are a big one. I was always really anxious and short tempered in busy supermarkets. It wasn’t until I got noise cancelling head phones that I realised I can’t deal with the plethora of noises that occurred. Now I can go to the supermarket with far less of an issue. If I go with my wife we split the shopping list, I put my headphones on and go off to get my bits and we meet at the end.

    Just give yourself time, the anxiety and depressive episode will subside over time, but you have to find what causes them and put measures in place to help you.

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