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Seeking guidance

Silver_surfer23.

Hi I'm the partner of 30+ years for an adult I suspect has high functioning autism and intermittently Explosive Disorder.

Whist I have done lots of reading and tried to tactfully broach the subject on many occasions there is outright denial and refusal to seek any type of support.

I am struggling and sad- it is exhausting and at times frightening to live with.

I try to support and want to support but live my life on eggshells I feel he would be so much happier if he had support and realised it is not 'him' but something bigger than him/ out of his control.

Any pointers or guidance??

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  • I think that   has some great advice right there. I just wanted to remind you that you should also look after yourself. You’re saying, you’re frightened… It is very noble of you to look out for your partner but there is no such thing as an excuse for violence even if related to “something bigger”. You can be autistic AND a choleric person and if it is related to the suspected autism, it’s still his decision to not do something about it and continue to endanger you.
    I don’t know how critical the situation is for you, but if it gets to the point of constant abuse (emotionally and/or physically), I beg you to seek out help for yourself.

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  • I think that   has some great advice right there. I just wanted to remind you that you should also look after yourself. You’re saying, you’re frightened… It is very noble of you to look out for your partner but there is no such thing as an excuse for violence even if related to “something bigger”. You can be autistic AND a choleric person and if it is related to the suspected autism, it’s still his decision to not do something about it and continue to endanger you.
    I don’t know how critical the situation is for you, but if it gets to the point of constant abuse (emotionally and/or physically), I beg you to seek out help for yourself.

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