Hi - Socialising and RSD

Hi , 

I’m autistic, diagnosed at age 12 (am 27 now) and have Rejection Sensitivity Disorder due to trauma from events and people/friendships throughout my life 

My brain is so overly complicated I can’t work it out myself and why I behave in certain ways (which is why counselling doesn’t work for me) 

I struggle a lot to go out and meet new people/make friends and I don’t want to ever do online dating 

Does anyone have any advice for RSD and going out and socialising as someone with no friends? 

P.S. does anyone do japanese jiu jitsu here in the UK with the Jiu Jitsu Foundation (TJJF) 

Hope you all had a good Christmas Christmas tree 

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  • Hi! I've just joined the community and, honestly, wasn't aware of what RSD was until now, but  I'll try to give you advice.

    First of all, in socializing I think a very good way to start interactions is joining an activity that you're really passionate about. Maybe join an activity that engages one of your special interests and, at the same time, lets you meet people with who you can start socializing and sharing something in common. If you have trouble with big groups of people, try to find an activity in which there are limited places. 

    Secondly, if it's the case in which you get to the point of socializing and start overthinking wheter the person is rejecting you or you're being too self-conscious and insecure (sorry if I don't say it in the right words, I just read everything about RSD but I am not an expert) try to reassure yourself thinking that the right person/the one who is worth it will like you and accept you by who you are. And you do not need to change in order for people to like you. Everyone is unique in its own way and that's beautiful.

    I hope this is useful. Best of luck.

  • Hi I wanted to know if there is a group meet up sessions that happen around Worcester Park, Sutton or Epsom area? It would be nice to meet other Autistic adults who are on the spectrum to understand each other and learn from each other.

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  • Hi I wanted to know if there is a group meet up sessions that happen around Worcester Park, Sutton or Epsom area? It would be nice to meet other Autistic adults who are on the spectrum to understand each other and learn from each other.

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