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Recent received late diagnosis

Curmudgeon

Male, 55.  

Never felt so alone in my life. Is it common to mourn the loss of what I recognize as my former self?

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  • Curmudgeon said:
    Is it common to mourn the loss of what I recognize as my former self?

    It seems to be, but it will not help your present or future situation.

    There is a wealth of information now relevant to your situation - all sorts of books about autism, YouTube channels, Discord servers and of course this forum (the best single source of advice in my opinion) so my advice would be to see the diagnosis as a prize - you now know what has been causing your issues and can finally make an educated approach to reducing their impacts and improving your quality of life.

    Mourning your old self is about as much use as trying to solve a complex maths equation by chewing gum - you burn lots of energy but get no further towards the solution.

    There are 2 books I think are likely to help:

    Very Late Diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome - Wylie, Philip_ Beardon, Luke_ Heath, Sara  (2014)
    ISBN 9781849054331

    Understanding Autism For Dummies - Stephen Shore, Linda G. Rastelli, Temple Grandin (2006)
    ISBN 0764525476

    Good luck on your journey and remember to look forward way more than you look back.

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  • Curmudgeon said:
    Is it common to mourn the loss of what I recognize as my former self?

    It seems to be, but it will not help your present or future situation.

    There is a wealth of information now relevant to your situation - all sorts of books about autism, YouTube channels, Discord servers and of course this forum (the best single source of advice in my opinion) so my advice would be to see the diagnosis as a prize - you now know what has been causing your issues and can finally make an educated approach to reducing their impacts and improving your quality of life.

    Mourning your old self is about as much use as trying to solve a complex maths equation by chewing gum - you burn lots of energy but get no further towards the solution.

    There are 2 books I think are likely to help:

    Very Late Diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome - Wylie, Philip_ Beardon, Luke_ Heath, Sara  (2014)
    ISBN 9781849054331

    Understanding Autism For Dummies - Stephen Shore, Linda G. Rastelli, Temple Grandin (2006)
    ISBN 0764525476

    Good luck on your journey and remember to look forward way more than you look back.

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