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HELLO IM NEW HERE. Is it worth getting diagnosed at 68 yrs old?

NAS96485

Is it worth getting diagnosed at 68 yrs old? I no longer work - thankfully. Although, after suffering my 3rd marriage failure and many other issues, I am feeling that I need support. I have never asked for support because 1. I didn't know I was autistic, 2. Pride - at feeling inadequate and I should be able to do everything myself, 3. Shame and embarrassment for not feeling able to cope - something I have struggled with all my life. As I get older I am not as resilient and feel like my life is almost over. I am currently trying to get an old age bungalow which is in very short supply in North Lincolnshire. But I would like to know if I am autistic even it is just for my peace of mind.

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  • Good morning.

    I think you have answered your own question with your final sentence above, and I think it is a good answer......"peace of mind" is invaluable.

    However, if you are thinking that having a diagnosis for autism will result in some form of "support" for you, in a practical sense, then I would caution you against that expectation.  One consistent message I have gleamed from this forum over the years is that, in a practical sense, for a person in your position, there is no help nor meaningful support available.

    It would not surprise me if a few 'others' disagree with my acquired perception on this matter, but I am quite settled and confident in what I have written to you above.

    I hope my words are helpful to you and I wish you well.

    Number.

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    Thank you for taking time to answer me

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  • in reply to NAS96485

    No bother at all.  I'm afraid this place is rather "hollowed out" at the moment, but I can recommend using the (frankly appalling) search function on this site to find previous conversations regarding the topic you have raised.  As you might imagine, the topic (especially for us older folk) is commonly raised.

    Good luck with whatever you decide.....and thank you for your acknowledgement - I appreciate that.

    Kind regards

    Number.