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Hi, I am a parent of a 15 year old boy, who has recently been diagnosed with aspergers, he went through school fairly normally other than problems with english, ie spellings, writing, he had lots of friends although shy with adults, suddenly outta the blue he refussed to go to school two years ago and has refused to leave the house ever since except for the occassional walk with dog in the dark, was wondering if anyone else has simllar experience and any advice how to deal with x

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  • At 13 he would probably have found it difficult to fit in with his peers as they start to develop more adult social interfaces (puberty and everything that goes with it).

    With Asperger's you cannot integrate socially, or pick up the unspoken or under-verbalised parts of fitting in. He is likely therefore to appear progressively naiive and out of place.

    Looking at people, and how you look at people, becomes much more important at that age.

    Also there may be bullying involved - not the conventional sort with bigger boys intimidating younger kids, but a majority of classmates taking advantage of his difficulties, setting him up for a fall, making fun of him, and isolating him.

    The NAS website usually has video clips of playground, school environment situations.

    Teachers may not notice, and indeed view this as mild teasing or ribbing. But when everyone turns against an asperger child and isolates themn, that is very demoralising.

    Hopefully parents with recent experiences of this will respond with their own insights. It should be something where you get a lot of feedback on here

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  • At 13 he would probably have found it difficult to fit in with his peers as they start to develop more adult social interfaces (puberty and everything that goes with it).

    With Asperger's you cannot integrate socially, or pick up the unspoken or under-verbalised parts of fitting in. He is likely therefore to appear progressively naiive and out of place.

    Looking at people, and how you look at people, becomes much more important at that age.

    Also there may be bullying involved - not the conventional sort with bigger boys intimidating younger kids, but a majority of classmates taking advantage of his difficulties, setting him up for a fall, making fun of him, and isolating him.

    The NAS website usually has video clips of playground, school environment situations.

    Teachers may not notice, and indeed view this as mild teasing or ribbing. But when everyone turns against an asperger child and isolates themn, that is very demoralising.

    Hopefully parents with recent experiences of this will respond with their own insights. It should be something where you get a lot of feedback on here

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