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My wife and myself would like to say hello to everyone, we have a 12 year old son who has just been diagnosed with aspergers,we thought he was quirky and a bit anti-social ,we tried to involve him in things and encourage him to join in ,sometimes getting angry regrettably.We are now trying to get to grips with a new way of looking at life through his eyes and trying not to feel guilty for not catching it earlier. It's so nice to know you are all out there to talk to and we are not alone ,Thanks

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  • Peer pressure at that age is considerable, and his friends may want to do things that are neither beneficial nor environmentally suitable for your son.

    Having difficulty with social interaction means you don't pick up on double meanings, nudge-nudge references, hidden agendas, and collective conspiracies of other 12 year olds. They may be taking advantage of his vulnerabilities, or leading him on to do things due to his misunderstanding for their entertainment.

    Socialising, because of social interaction difficulties, plain ain't the fun you imagine....

    Also the activities in a collective- everybody talking, gesturing and moving around, including loud speech or noises, sudden movements, may be extremely uncomfortable for him. Even by 12 many kids seem obsessed with making high pitched shouts or screams.

    And they may be going to noisy or intimidating places.

    It is little wonder that many young people with aspergers withdraw into their shell. the world out there is pretty horrible if you are unable to keep up with what is going on, and don't understand if you are being made a fool of by others.

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  • Peer pressure at that age is considerable, and his friends may want to do things that are neither beneficial nor environmentally suitable for your son.

    Having difficulty with social interaction means you don't pick up on double meanings, nudge-nudge references, hidden agendas, and collective conspiracies of other 12 year olds. They may be taking advantage of his vulnerabilities, or leading him on to do things due to his misunderstanding for their entertainment.

    Socialising, because of social interaction difficulties, plain ain't the fun you imagine....

    Also the activities in a collective- everybody talking, gesturing and moving around, including loud speech or noises, sudden movements, may be extremely uncomfortable for him. Even by 12 many kids seem obsessed with making high pitched shouts or screams.

    And they may be going to noisy or intimidating places.

    It is little wonder that many young people with aspergers withdraw into their shell. the world out there is pretty horrible if you are unable to keep up with what is going on, and don't understand if you are being made a fool of by others.

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