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bernie1810

Hi, I'm new on here, only just been diagnosed after years of being reproached. for not being able to "move on" and counless misdiagnoses added to my name. I now have  hundreds of questions. One that bothers me a lot is why I have such difficulty using people's names. I can refer to someone by name but I just cannot use their name directly to them. If I want to speak to my partner, I have to go up to him and speak to him; I cannot call him by name. However I don't have this problem with my 4 year old twins. Does anyone else have this problem?

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  • bernie1810 said:

     One that bothers me a lot is why I have such difficulty using people's names. I can refer to someone by name but I just cannot use their name directly to them. If I want to speak to my partner, I have to go up to him and speak to him; I cannot call him by name. However I don't have this problem with my 4 year old twins. Does anyone else have this problem?

    I find that I can call our pet cats by their names, that isn't a problem.  But I never can bring myself to call people by their name.  I can usually refer to someone by name, but if it is somebody I feel very emotional about, then even that is difficult.  I too don't like people using my name when they are talking to me.  I think my parents found it difficult that I was never able to address them as 'Mum' or 'Dad' or as anything and I was kind of told off for that at times.  (I got a late diagnosis and AS wasn't known about when I was a child, so my family had no framework for being able to understand my difficulties).  I have also heard my children comment that I never address anyone by name, and that hurt.  It is something I feel very sensitive about.  I have also suffered from Selective Mutism throughout my life, and I wonder if it is partly an SM thing as well.

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  • bernie1810 said:

     One that bothers me a lot is why I have such difficulty using people's names. I can refer to someone by name but I just cannot use their name directly to them. If I want to speak to my partner, I have to go up to him and speak to him; I cannot call him by name. However I don't have this problem with my 4 year old twins. Does anyone else have this problem?

    I find that I can call our pet cats by their names, that isn't a problem.  But I never can bring myself to call people by their name.  I can usually refer to someone by name, but if it is somebody I feel very emotional about, then even that is difficult.  I too don't like people using my name when they are talking to me.  I think my parents found it difficult that I was never able to address them as 'Mum' or 'Dad' or as anything and I was kind of told off for that at times.  (I got a late diagnosis and AS wasn't known about when I was a child, so my family had no framework for being able to understand my difficulties).  I have also heard my children comment that I never address anyone by name, and that hurt.  It is something I feel very sensitive about.  I have also suffered from Selective Mutism throughout my life, and I wonder if it is partly an SM thing as well.

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