Hi, Just joined NAS. OUr eldest son, James (7.5 years) has just been diagnosed with Aspergers....very new to all this, although suspected for a long time. Glad to be part of the community....Mx
Hi, Just joined NAS. OUr eldest son, James (7.5 years) has just been diagnosed with Aspergers....very new to all this, although suspected for a long time. Glad to be part of the community....Mx
It's so reassuring to hear that this situation/worries is/are shared... 
I was reading that it is very stressful for kids with Aspergers to keep things together at school, to concentrate, follow rules & structures etc...also that they will literally kick off when home, taking frustrations out on those around them etc. Sounds familiar!
J is not very good at self-selecting activities and often comes home 'wired' and demanding to do crafts, make a model etc. he won't take no for an answer! With another wee one to look after, this is hard. I also don't want little brother to be picked on - not fair at all, and find I am constantly listening to their conversations (they do play quite well for spells) for shifts in dynamics and hovering nearby in case J gets frustrated and hits/pushes A. All quite tense...J prefers to dominate A and doesn't like it if he doesn't comply!
I found that we didn't say much to J until the follow up appointment, even then he was only a wee bit aware anyway. We have used the term 'Aspergers Syndrome' when he is finding things difficult and seems quite ditressed by his own emotions. We say (when he is calmer!) that" this is because you have Aspergers and that means you find certain things tricky" . having casual conversations side by side/ in the car, reflecting on situations seems to work best, not eye contact pressurised one-on-ones!
Good to 'chat'. Hope your week goes ok.
Mx
It's so reassuring to hear that this situation/worries is/are shared... I was reading that it is very stressful for kids with Aspergers to keep things together at school, to concentrate, follow rules & structures etc...also that they will literally kick off when home, taking frustrations out on those around them etc. Sounds familiar!
J is not very good at self-selecting activities and often comes home 'wired' and demanding to do crafts, make a model etc. he won't take no for an answer! With another wee one to look after, this is hard. I also don't want little brother to be picked on - not fair at all, and find I am constantly listening to their conversations (they do play quite well for spells) for shifts in dynamics and hovering nearby in case J gets frustrated and hits/pushes A. All quite tense...J prefers to dominate A and doesn't like it if he doesn't comply!
I found that we didn't say much to J until the follow up appointment, even then he was only a wee bit aware anyway. We have used the term 'Aspergers Syndrome' when he is finding things difficult and seems quite ditressed by his own emotions. We say (when he is calmer!) that" this is because you have Aspergers and that means you find certain things tricky" . having casual conversations side by side/ in the car, reflecting on situations seems to work best, not eye contact pressurised one-on-ones!
Good to 'chat'. Hope your week goes ok.
Mx
