Hi, I'm Nel. I've got 3 kids and the middle one (8) is diagnosed as high-functioning ASD. He's a bright, creative little boy who is very affectionate and has a nice circle of friends but every so often (without warning) he will do something completely off the wall at school.
Today I got a call to say he had spat at another child. Earlier this term he hit a little girl. My husband didn't tell me about the hitting because I get so upset about it, so I found out about both in the same phone call. The thing is with him, it's never exactly the same thing twice. Once it was repeating a racist phrase he picked up from lord-knows-where and another time he pulled his pants down on the school bus. Not telling me about the hitting was wrong but I do understand why his Dad kept it from me because I start crying every time the school rings. It's just a conditioned response now. I'm so afraid that he is going to throw his future away by getting expelled.
I don't know how to stop this pattern of every few months something like this happening. I can stop the *specific behaviour* it's never exactly the same thing twice, but how can I get him to just not do things like this? Is this my son or is this common for autistic kids his age? I don't really know much and I feel completely out of my depth.
