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The Aspie Within the woman

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Hello I have just Joined this site.  At the direction and recommendation from the latest psychologist who has been sent to work with me or " sort me out " as the case maybe  well good luck with that ! I am on approximately at a guess therapist number 17 this one has lasted longer than all the rest because she buys me coffee  . Grrrrr !! I am very frustrated on the simple fact of the invention of windows 8 this is the current bain of my life along with the world being a large ball of spinning beauty inhabitated by humans who I  simply seem to confuse or scare the *** out of or completely irritate and piss off  , I am not proud by any means . To achieve the opposite outcome in a conversation is a skill I have mastered I have had 35 years experience . Anyways I just wanted to say Hello to people as apparently I need to stop being such a hermit and instead of focusing on hacking into Wikipedia I need to start being around people "more like me" apparently  and be more well erm........... Sociable so Hello everybody . I hope this introduction went Ok any thoughts gratefully recieved .

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  • Its sad that social communications is one of those aspects of autism/asperger's that health professionals such as psychologists and psychiatrists, don't think significant enough to take seriously.

    Lots of people suffer needlessly and get no help. Because its automatic for NTs they don't see how there can be a problem.

    Two things are at work - non-verbal communication, and whether the environment affects the coherence of speech spoken by you or heard from others.

    For the former you can learn some responses, at least to reading non-verbal, if not at all easy to change yours. But books on body language are pointlessly detailed about the minor nuances that don't crop up and dont matter (they seem to disregard the everyday ones as too obvious to give time to).

    You can however observe conversations around you and try to identify the main non-verbal/body language responses, and practice these so you can at least put up some show of compliance. Be like an actor, indeed some books on acting deal with non-verbal communication if a little too "theatrically" although affectation might further help hide difficulties. Likewise this will help you pick up non-verbal messages, even if you have to work them out.

    If the environment affects the clarity of what you hear, or makes it harder for you to enunciate clearly, try to avoid getting in the middle of social gatherings - mingling as they call it. Stay towards one side of the room, near the wall, so sounds only come from one direction. They may not come to you, and think you stand-offish, but if you can hear and speak more clearly that's more important.

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  • Its sad that social communications is one of those aspects of autism/asperger's that health professionals such as psychologists and psychiatrists, don't think significant enough to take seriously.

    Lots of people suffer needlessly and get no help. Because its automatic for NTs they don't see how there can be a problem.

    Two things are at work - non-verbal communication, and whether the environment affects the coherence of speech spoken by you or heard from others.

    For the former you can learn some responses, at least to reading non-verbal, if not at all easy to change yours. But books on body language are pointlessly detailed about the minor nuances that don't crop up and dont matter (they seem to disregard the everyday ones as too obvious to give time to).

    You can however observe conversations around you and try to identify the main non-verbal/body language responses, and practice these so you can at least put up some show of compliance. Be like an actor, indeed some books on acting deal with non-verbal communication if a little too "theatrically" although affectation might further help hide difficulties. Likewise this will help you pick up non-verbal messages, even if you have to work them out.

    If the environment affects the clarity of what you hear, or makes it harder for you to enunciate clearly, try to avoid getting in the middle of social gatherings - mingling as they call it. Stay towards one side of the room, near the wall, so sounds only come from one direction. They may not come to you, and think you stand-offish, but if you can hear and speak more clearly that's more important.

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