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Hello I need advice

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Hello my name is Sarah 

I have a two year old boy called Jonathan who is autistic he has not yet been statmented however i have been told he is by a sycoligist and peodtrition that he is

My ex the dad of my two children also had autism and could function fairly normal after my daughter was born his mum told him his daughter wasnt his and he became vilont towards not only be but my daughter awell

I could not go on in the situation any more as his mum continued to make the situation worse and when the stress of my son witnessing this got to much it would trigger his epilepsy and he would become protective and lash out so i made the dision to send him to his mothers and leave him 

This was met with mutipul assaults in front of the children and he even sexualy asaulted me on mutipul occasions I now have a new partner but i am on child protection because of the situation at the time 

My new partner in great with the children and you can see the diffrence in Jonathan he is more confident and comfortble in his surounding 

My ex has regular contact with the children and Jonathan is now attending nursry however because of the plan i am contantly bombarded by services coming to the house and meetings witch makes it imposible to get into a routien and Jonathan prefers to follow his own routine jumping from one thing to thing to the next thing of interest witch makes his behavior difficult when i have to take him away from whatever it is he is doing at the time 

Jonathan functions normaly on between 4 and 6 hours of sleep a night and no nap i would really like to have his room turned in to a sensory room/bedroom however im not sure how to go about this or where to fund it as am struggling finacaly and do not work if anyone can give me advice its much aprecated

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  • You can ask social services if they can remove your child from the child protection plan.  As your ex was (by the sounds of it) the reason for the plan to be put in place in the beginning, and he is not in the house any more I don't see a huge reason to have such a plan in place.  As long as the children are not left unsupervised with him, and they are always safe.  I would use the fact that it's unsettling for your son in your reasoning with them.  So long as a child is not at risk, they ought to step back a bit and let the family get on with it.

    I can't understand why your ex's mother would say such things, surely she wants a relationship with her grandchildren?  Surely she knows what problems her son has and knew that this would cause major difficulties in the relationship.

    You can search for funding here: www.turn2us.org.uk which might be able to help with a sensory room for him.  As your son sleeps so poorly, have you spoken to the paediatrician about melatonin for him?

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  • You can ask social services if they can remove your child from the child protection plan.  As your ex was (by the sounds of it) the reason for the plan to be put in place in the beginning, and he is not in the house any more I don't see a huge reason to have such a plan in place.  As long as the children are not left unsupervised with him, and they are always safe.  I would use the fact that it's unsettling for your son in your reasoning with them.  So long as a child is not at risk, they ought to step back a bit and let the family get on with it.

    I can't understand why your ex's mother would say such things, surely she wants a relationship with her grandchildren?  Surely she knows what problems her son has and knew that this would cause major difficulties in the relationship.

    You can search for funding here: www.turn2us.org.uk which might be able to help with a sensory room for him.  As your son sleeps so poorly, have you spoken to the paediatrician about melatonin for him?

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