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Adult ?? Autism

Hippy chick

Hi everyone.  I Have recently joined the site as I am a little curious about autism.  I am a 31 yr old female mother of two.  I have started to look at myself in a different light, more so in the last year.  I know I am different and extremely shy.  I have always had problems 'mixing' with people and find socialising/ conversations difficult and exhausting. 

Now I have children, I am being thrown into many different social situations that I really do not know how to deal with and this is making life quite hard at times.  Even just casual 'chit chat' with mums at school I find hard.  I am unsure of what to say back and struggle to hold a conversation.  Talking to teachers/ meetings/ kids parties etc! I can't approach people and try to get away before they try and talk to me. 

i do not really have any friends or close friends.  I do not go out socially and I do not work at present.  I have only recently stumbled across the idea of autism and if I could have this.  My childhood wasn't easy,  I always thought that I was a naughty child. 

Because off these difficulties I am finding myself feeling quite down and isolated.  I have no one to talk to and I am worried about the impact this will have on my children. 

CaN anyone else relate to this. Thanks 

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  • Isabel said:
    I know it might feel a bit uncomfortable for you to do this yet, but particularly when dealing with people at school don't be afraid to say you are on the autism spectrum as they will be very helpful and understanding.

    Whilst not wishing to burst anyone's bubble, or give OP any more worries, this isn't necessarily the case.  My youngest is in an autism unit and they regularly cause her upset and don't appear to understand her, during a meeting last week at which her teacher and SENCo were present, knowing I have Asperger's, they not only did not make reasonable adjustments for me, they were defensive, attacking and downright discriminatory towards me.  I had to leave in tears at one point, yet even when I re-entered the meeting, they carried on, criticising my autistic traits.

    OP, don't fear anything about seeing the GP.  They see all sorts of people for all sorts of things.  Complete the AQ10 and take it along and assert your right to an assessment under statutory guidance (the Autism Strategy, resultant from the Autism Act).

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  • Isabel said:
    I know it might feel a bit uncomfortable for you to do this yet, but particularly when dealing with people at school don't be afraid to say you are on the autism spectrum as they will be very helpful and understanding.

    Whilst not wishing to burst anyone's bubble, or give OP any more worries, this isn't necessarily the case.  My youngest is in an autism unit and they regularly cause her upset and don't appear to understand her, during a meeting last week at which her teacher and SENCo were present, knowing I have Asperger's, they not only did not make reasonable adjustments for me, they were defensive, attacking and downright discriminatory towards me.  I had to leave in tears at one point, yet even when I re-entered the meeting, they carried on, criticising my autistic traits.

    OP, don't fear anything about seeing the GP.  They see all sorts of people for all sorts of things.  Complete the AQ10 and take it along and assert your right to an assessment under statutory guidance (the Autism Strategy, resultant from the Autism Act).

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