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Adult ?? Autism

Hippy chick

Hi everyone.  I Have recently joined the site as I am a little curious about autism.  I am a 31 yr old female mother of two.  I have started to look at myself in a different light, more so in the last year.  I know I am different and extremely shy.  I have always had problems 'mixing' with people and find socialising/ conversations difficult and exhausting. 

Now I have children, I am being thrown into many different social situations that I really do not know how to deal with and this is making life quite hard at times.  Even just casual 'chit chat' with mums at school I find hard.  I am unsure of what to say back and struggle to hold a conversation.  Talking to teachers/ meetings/ kids parties etc! I can't approach people and try to get away before they try and talk to me. 

i do not really have any friends or close friends.  I do not go out socially and I do not work at present.  I have only recently stumbled across the idea of autism and if I could have this.  My childhood wasn't easy,  I always thought that I was a naughty child. 

Because off these difficulties I am finding myself feeling quite down and isolated.  I have no one to talk to and I am worried about the impact this will have on my children. 

CaN anyone else relate to this. Thanks 

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  • I know it might feel a bit uncomfortable for you to do this yet, but particularly when dealing with people at school don't be afraid to say you are on the autism spectrum as they will be very helpful and understanding. I had to go into a busy shopping centre the other day to exchange a present and had a quiet word with the staff in the shop, I was gobsmacked by how helpful, professional and discrete they were about making the ordeal bearable. The world really is changing as autism is more recognised and understood.

    Regards being rude, I have realised that I used to sometimes be rude as a defensive measure and have actually calmed down since my diagnosis. If others see you as rude simply because you are struggling to make small talk or eye contact that is more difficult, particularly older family members who may not be understanding even if you explained, but if you can talk to your partner and he can support you in awkward situations that may help.

    best wishes

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  • I know it might feel a bit uncomfortable for you to do this yet, but particularly when dealing with people at school don't be afraid to say you are on the autism spectrum as they will be very helpful and understanding. I had to go into a busy shopping centre the other day to exchange a present and had a quiet word with the staff in the shop, I was gobsmacked by how helpful, professional and discrete they were about making the ordeal bearable. The world really is changing as autism is more recognised and understood.

    Regards being rude, I have realised that I used to sometimes be rude as a defensive measure and have actually calmed down since my diagnosis. If others see you as rude simply because you are struggling to make small talk or eye contact that is more difficult, particularly older family members who may not be understanding even if you explained, but if you can talk to your partner and he can support you in awkward situations that may help.

    best wishes

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