hello

Hi im have aspegers syndrome message me if u want a talk 

i find people so hard to understand, find social occasions and meeting new people very traumatic...

i try to avoid these at all costs even if it means me being by myself?? 

i do understand how u must of felt when you were diagnosed... i bet it put so much into perspective for you! i always thought it was me... thought i was different or doing something wrong... 

life has always been a constant battle, things that people take for granted (meeting people) (groups) etc has always been a struggle and more often than not i repeat what i have said and feel like im boring them...

i very rarely ask for help and will always struggle through what im trying to do... do you do this?? i find myself annoying at times too as well as others....

:) thank u for your reply im very greatful... :)

Don't worry, you are far from alone in finding meeting new people or being in group situations difficult.  I avoid socialising as much as possible, it's so much hard work and so many people annoy me as well.

I was diagnosed as an adult, and it was such a Eureka moment when I first read about Asperger's as I'd never heard of it and I wondered why my life was so difficult and everyone was so hard to deal with.  It's an incredible validation as well, because until you know, you always blame yourself and wonder why you don't fit anywhere or with anyone.  Knowing you just have brain differences and that it's not your fault is tremendous.

Online chatting is a very good form of socialising for Aspies/auties as well because there is no pressure and you can exit communication whenever you want without standing there awkwardly wondering what the right moment is to say you are going and whether it is acceptable to do so.

thank you for your advice i will look up some aspie socialising sites and see what comes up for my area...

i was diagnosed at 13... but have somehow slipped through the net in schools and was always put to the back of the class for not paying attention or simply "daydreaming"

i find socialising properly awkward and very often sit quiet unsure of what to say...

i stammer when i talk so conversing takes me a few mins to achieve what i want to say...

people often laugh and walk away... :(

You could join an Aspie social group (check this website out for what's on in your area) or NAS coffee morning.  Google might throw up something if you type your hometown name and "Asperger's socialising" in.

If you need support you could approach adult social care for an assessment of need.  You are legally entitled to an autism care pathway, according to the Autism Strategy.  Unfortunately support never gets offered, you have to seek it yourself (or get someone to on your behalf).

BTW, Asperger's is lifelong, you would have had it from birth, not only the age at which you were diagnosed.

There are a few of us adult Aspies on here.  If you have any specific questions, let us know.