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I feel like a Freak and cannot not find someone who would want a relationship with me!

JackRHOSullivan

Hi,

My name is Jack [edited by mod] and I have Asperger's Syndrome and Tourette's Syndrome (I have body movements and noises that I cannot control but I do not swear.)

Due to my special needs, I have found it impossbile to find someone my age that would want to be in a realtionship with me. I am hetrosexual but feel that my special needs alienantes me from from 17-18 year old girls. Is this normal in Asperger's or is it just something my mind is doing to me as I feel that I need a relationship to help me feel less lonely?

Jack

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  • I can relate to Jack's concerns, for I have Aspergers and OCD, and would like to meet someone. My issues are compounded by being gay and asexual, and I really struggle to make meaningful friendships.

    Although I have developed socially since leaving school and University, school was where you made friendships; and having now left the world of education, where do I make friends?.

    I do attend an Asperger social group, but most of the people who attend are men (a problem for lesbians!), and there is little in the way of connection between us in any case. Either they function at a lower level than me,  do not undertstand my issues (AS empathy problems), or invade my personal space!.

    It is all too easy for people who have been there and got the t-shirt to tell those who are starting out that they should not worry, it will happen in the end. As Longman points out, this is little help in the here and now, when the person concerned has very real doubts, and fears that they will always be alone.

    Social relationships are so very important for most human-beings, people with Aspergers included;and if your disability prevents you from attaining them, serious mental health issues can occur.

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  • I can relate to Jack's concerns, for I have Aspergers and OCD, and would like to meet someone. My issues are compounded by being gay and asexual, and I really struggle to make meaningful friendships.

    Although I have developed socially since leaving school and University, school was where you made friendships; and having now left the world of education, where do I make friends?.

    I do attend an Asperger social group, but most of the people who attend are men (a problem for lesbians!), and there is little in the way of connection between us in any case. Either they function at a lower level than me,  do not undertstand my issues (AS empathy problems), or invade my personal space!.

    It is all too easy for people who have been there and got the t-shirt to tell those who are starting out that they should not worry, it will happen in the end. As Longman points out, this is little help in the here and now, when the person concerned has very real doubts, and fears that they will always be alone.

    Social relationships are so very important for most human-beings, people with Aspergers included;and if your disability prevents you from attaining them, serious mental health issues can occur.

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