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I feel like a Freak and cannot not find someone who would want a relationship with me!

JackRHOSullivan

Hi,

My name is Jack [edited by mod] and I have Asperger's Syndrome and Tourette's Syndrome (I have body movements and noises that I cannot control but I do not swear.)

Due to my special needs, I have found it impossbile to find someone my age that would want to be in a realtionship with me. I am hetrosexual but feel that my special needs alienantes me from from 17-18 year old girls. Is this normal in Asperger's or is it just something my mind is doing to me as I feel that I need a relationship to help me feel less lonely?

Jack

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  • It's important that OP understands that despite his condition, his age is not one to be panicking about not being in a relationship in.

    I was not brushing off his concerns as your reply seems to imply Longman.

    For anyone, NT or otherwise, pressuring yourself to be in a relationship is almost guaranteed to make it not happen or to end up with the wrong person.  OP needs to find a socialising opportunity where he feels comfortable (such as the Aspie social group I suggested) and let things happen naturally.  People on the spectrum do have relationships and do get married and have children - otherwise where would all these new autistic children be coming from!

    Despite what you say, angst about the opposite sex (or same if that's your thing) is common in teenagers as they are not yet adults, full of hormones and still finding out who they are.

    Of course this is complicated if you have a disability, but someone needs to get socialising experience and try to feel comfortable in their own skin (i.e. not labelling themselves as a freak) before they are going to be relationship material.

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  • It's important that OP understands that despite his condition, his age is not one to be panicking about not being in a relationship in.

    I was not brushing off his concerns as your reply seems to imply Longman.

    For anyone, NT or otherwise, pressuring yourself to be in a relationship is almost guaranteed to make it not happen or to end up with the wrong person.  OP needs to find a socialising opportunity where he feels comfortable (such as the Aspie social group I suggested) and let things happen naturally.  People on the spectrum do have relationships and do get married and have children - otherwise where would all these new autistic children be coming from!

    Despite what you say, angst about the opposite sex (or same if that's your thing) is common in teenagers as they are not yet adults, full of hormones and still finding out who they are.

    Of course this is complicated if you have a disability, but someone needs to get socialising experience and try to feel comfortable in their own skin (i.e. not labelling themselves as a freak) before they are going to be relationship material.

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