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Hi I am new. Recently diagnosed son

nursecharlee

Hi my son was diagnosed with autistic spectrum disorder in June this year. He is 6 and still awaiting an assessment by the educational psychologist which he has in a couple of weeks. School have been fab but he ideally needs one to one support. His main problem is lack of bowel control which he has never fully achieved. One of the main reasons I have joined this forum is that my hubby struggled with our sons diagnosis and 5 months on we arent really any further on. He is still struggling, finding it difficult to have patience with him. I have suggested he join an online forum as he is unable to come to any local support meetings due to his shiftwork. Is there anything else I can suggest to him? I have tried reading books but he isnt interested! I would be very grateful for any advice as we are struggling as a family. Many thanks

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  • This is a delicate question, but does your husband have ASD?  I only ask as my ex was very similar and still is towards our sons.  In his case he is very strict, an authoritarian parent which, I believe is an aspect of his ASD. 

    If you see ASD traits in him it may explain why he is behaving the way he is.  

    I'm not trying to sew the seed as it were, but in my situation if someone had opened my eyes I would have handled things very differently and it would have helped our children cope with their fathers behaviour with insight rather than bewilderment and anger.

    In hindsight I think it would have helped if we had met up with other families with ASD children as that common bond with parents on similar journeys is invaluable in keeping you strong.  This is something I now do as a single parent and it is great to be able to talk about issues with people who understand and don't judge you.

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  • This is a delicate question, but does your husband have ASD?  I only ask as my ex was very similar and still is towards our sons.  In his case he is very strict, an authoritarian parent which, I believe is an aspect of his ASD. 

    If you see ASD traits in him it may explain why he is behaving the way he is.  

    I'm not trying to sew the seed as it were, but in my situation if someone had opened my eyes I would have handled things very differently and it would have helped our children cope with their fathers behaviour with insight rather than bewilderment and anger.

    In hindsight I think it would have helped if we had met up with other families with ASD children as that common bond with parents on similar journeys is invaluable in keeping you strong.  This is something I now do as a single parent and it is great to be able to talk about issues with people who understand and don't judge you.

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