Published on 12, July, 2020
Hello everyone,
I am Mark. I hope this message finds you all well. I want to connect with others who might be feeling the same way that I do. I am not sure if I am looking to make friends or create lasting connections. I sometimes wish I could talk to some one when I am in trouble. Someone maybe, could guide me? I would at least like to know what shouldn't do. Or maybe, just talk about things.
Perhaps we could talk about films. I almost never miss a movie in the cinemas. I'm just not really into tv shows and series. Its just I hate to stop in the middle, and I might end up binge-watching the whole thing and I have a really bad perception of time.
I like listening to music. I like Linkin Park, Led Zeppelin, Queen, AC/DC, ABBA, Deep Purple, Madonna, Tame Impala, etc. (please suggest me some artists, if you find similar songs interesting.)
I take long nature walks, museums, parks. I like animals. I always go to a nearby park and feed squirrels, or ducks.
I wouldn't say I don't like social interactions. I just don't like it when I don't know what to do. Or when people don't split the bill.( I know you are trying to be nice, but it's going to bug me for days). I like board games.
I understand we're all in different stages of life and have our own unique personalities and needs, And I am open to any opinion you have and I completely respect that. I am just trying to find a way to fit in somewhere, and I have no idea what I am.
Looking forward to hearing your thoughts and perhaps getting to know some of you better. Feel free to share your experiences, insights, or even your own journey in seeking friendship.
Warm regards,
Mark1289
Hi Mark :), Making friends with the right people is easy. Finding the right people is hard. This has been my experience- no friends at school and I just thought I couldn't make friends or I wasn't trying hard enough. But that all changed at university when I came across some likeminded people, and I made friends with almost no effort- if it takes a lot of effort it probably isn't right. I do love board games as well- in fact I have one close friend with whom I always play board games online over board game arena ! The hard thing is really to find the right people to be your friends- I know now that I was incredibly lucky that I ended up in an environment at university where that was possible. I think maybe your chances are best through a special interest? It can be hard to find the people that you can be friends with, but when you do find them, then in my experience those friendships will last for a long long time. I no longer live in the same place as any of my friends, but I am still very close and with some people the bond has even grown despite not living in the same area- there are so many ways to stay in touch and with some friends there are long gaps in communication but the friendships have remained and when we do talk, it feels like there was not gap at all. I really hope you find your friends. I am convinced that when you do making friends with them will actually not be hard at all! If you can be yourself with people this is the best.
Hi Ann :),
Thanks for the reply. There could be something else, but I absolutely hated school. It was hell. I wasn't bright like other students, so the teachers were not so concerned about me. I was practically invisible. I was depressed and everyone just kept adding more stress on top of me. On top of that I was constantly compared to other students by my mother. To be honest I was more afraid of that, I completely cut myself from everybody by the end of high school. I didn't make a single friend during my undergrad because I didn't want my mother to know about a single other student. Four years later here I am with no communication skills or any interpersonal relationships. I don't know how to talk to people. I don't know what to talk to. It's so dumb.
I tried Clubs and societies during my postgrad, but even with common interests its so difficult to communicate. It's always this feeling that I don't belong there and I am boring people there. I feel like I am lacking some fundamental element required to be social. Like a huge junk of my brain is not working.
How do you contact someone you met earlier? Am I annoying them? What do they expect from me? Who knows...
Being me is really depressing. I don't have any good memories, or anything. I really don't know who I am, or what I want. Me is standing in the corner, waiting for someone to talk to me. I feel like may be I am waiting for someone to find me. And I am leaving no mark for anybody to notice me. I am looking for the easy way in and I don't believe there is one.
I should probably work on these. Thanks again for replying.