Hello. Looking for advice. Feel so sad.

Hi all,

I'm a mum of 2. Eldest son is now 11 and has already been assessed for Autism when he started junior school but, Consultant thought it he may have just been immature as youngest in class. He is very articulate and remembers thing well but has no patience with homework or doing things he has no interest in and doesn't have friends since leaving juniors.

He began senior school in September and we've already had two incidents of him punching other boys for having a go at him in PE. He hates PE and is struggling with new school anyway, especially with older boys shoving him around and throwing food at him in the canteen.

We've been called in to see head of year and she asked if anyone had ever mentioned Autism to us, as at least 4 teachers asked her if he is. An appointment has been made to see the GP next week for referral.

He seems to have got worse since starting this school. He is very anxious and trys to keep out of everyone's way. It breaks my heart as he's a different lad at home. Always hugging, funny and kind to his baby sister. He's panicking today as back at school tomorrow. I try and make him feel better but I just end up leaving his room feeling like I want to cry. Why are kids/adults so cruel to anyone slightly different to them. 

How do other parents cope and help their kids?

thank you and sorry so long!

C

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  • Goldenlady1 said:
    However one of the best pieces of advice I ever got was by an speech threapist who said when dealing with the professionals you have to be a'a bit autistic' yourself and she meant just go at it and if they said no just persist .Politely but firmly so they know you are not going to go away.

    Thanks Goldenlady1, as I have AS myself I am dogged in battling away to get what my girls need, it is incredibly stressful though!

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  • Goldenlady1 said:
    However one of the best pieces of advice I ever got was by an speech threapist who said when dealing with the professionals you have to be a'a bit autistic' yourself and she meant just go at it and if they said no just persist .Politely but firmly so they know you are not going to go away.

    Thanks Goldenlady1, as I have AS myself I am dogged in battling away to get what my girls need, it is incredibly stressful though!

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