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Hello. Looking for advice. Feel so sad.

Cbear

Hi all,

I'm a mum of 2. Eldest son is now 11 and has already been assessed for Autism when he started junior school but, Consultant thought it he may have just been immature as youngest in class. He is very articulate and remembers thing well but has no patience with homework or doing things he has no interest in and doesn't have friends since leaving juniors.

He began senior school in September and we've already had two incidents of him punching other boys for having a go at him in PE. He hates PE and is struggling with new school anyway, especially with older boys shoving him around and throwing food at him in the canteen.

We've been called in to see head of year and she asked if anyone had ever mentioned Autism to us, as at least 4 teachers asked her if he is. An appointment has been made to see the GP next week for referral.

He seems to have got worse since starting this school. He is very anxious and trys to keep out of everyone's way. It breaks my heart as he's a different lad at home. Always hugging, funny and kind to his baby sister. He's panicking today as back at school tomorrow. I try and make him feel better but I just end up leaving his room feeling like I want to cry. Why are kids/adults so cruel to anyone slightly different to them. 

How do other parents cope and help their kids?

thank you and sorry so long!

C

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  • My 8yo has a diagnosis of HFA and my eldest is pending diagnosis, she is 12.

    She has had bullying at school and food thrown at her in the canteen too, and is also panicking about returning to school tomorrow.

    She is very self-contained at school and does not act out but at home has massive screaming meltdowns, crying, circling the room, stimming and going monosyllabic as well as threatening to kill herself.

    It is awful.  All I can do at this time is hug her, reassure her and in the background I am appealing LAs refusal to assess for statement.  In your favour, the school are recognising your son's autistic traits and he has shown behaviour that has put up red flags, my daughter's school are denying she is failing to cope as she doesn't show anything at school due to inhibitions.  She was on SA+ and they have downgraded her to SA despite me having a meeting with them telling them how bad she has been.

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  • My 8yo has a diagnosis of HFA and my eldest is pending diagnosis, she is 12.

    She has had bullying at school and food thrown at her in the canteen too, and is also panicking about returning to school tomorrow.

    She is very self-contained at school and does not act out but at home has massive screaming meltdowns, crying, circling the room, stimming and going monosyllabic as well as threatening to kill herself.

    It is awful.  All I can do at this time is hug her, reassure her and in the background I am appealing LAs refusal to assess for statement.  In your favour, the school are recognising your son's autistic traits and he has shown behaviour that has put up red flags, my daughter's school are denying she is failing to cope as she doesn't show anything at school due to inhibitions.  She was on SA+ and they have downgraded her to SA despite me having a meeting with them telling them how bad she has been.

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