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Recently diagnosed, completely lacking social interactions

Mark_1289
over 1 year ago

Hi,

I am Mark (preferred name not real) and I am 23. I was diagnosed with ASD couple of months ago. Don't know how to react to it.

No matter how badly I want, I can't keep friends or be in a relationship. I don't know what I am doing wrong. 

I like watching films, mostly horror and action. I like listening to music, Led Zeppelin, The Beatles, Madonna, ABBA, etc.

I was told this is a great place to connect with people.

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  • over 1 year ago
    Mark_1289 said:
    No matter how badly I want, I can't keep friends or be in a relationship. I don't know what I am doing wrong. 

    This is a very common issue for autistic people and there are a few good books on the subject that are worth reading:

    An Aspie's Guide to Making and Keeping Friends - Attwood, Tony, Evans, Craig R., Lesko, Anita (2015)
    eISBN 9781784501259


    Friendships The Aspie Way - Wendy Lawson (2006)
    ISBN-10: 1 84310 427 X


    Social Skills for Teenagers and Adults with Asperger Syndrome - A Practical Guide to Day-to-day Life - Nancy J., Ph.D. Patrick (2008)
    ISBN 9781843108764

    As for knowing how to react - don't react but instead learn, understand and plan before acting.

    Depending on your level of interest in doing this you can start with the common:

    Understanding Autism For Dummies - Stephen Shore, Linda G. Rastelli, Temple Grandin (2006)

    ISBN 0764525476

    or the more academic:

    Neurodiversity - The Birth of An Idea - Judy Singer (2016)

    ISBN 064815470X

    You are no different than before the diagnosis so nothing has actually changed. You have knowledge of it now which gives you power over it - build on that knowledge and you will be able to work on all the areas you want to when you are ready.

    Welcome to the club.

  • over 1 year ago in reply to Iain

    I tried to change, but somehow I ended up being more desperate. I can't be around anybody. I couldn't help myself from crying all the time. When I am around other people it just remind me of how lonely I am. It was never an issue, but since the last couple of years I just can't keep clear of these thoughts.

    Knowing makes me feel like what's wrong with me will never change. Nothing changes I am just more pathetic.

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  • over 1 year ago in reply to Iain

    I tried to change, but somehow I ended up being more desperate. I can't be around anybody. I couldn't help myself from crying all the time. When I am around other people it just remind me of how lonely I am. It was never an issue, but since the last couple of years I just can't keep clear of these thoughts.

    Knowing makes me feel like what's wrong with me will never change. Nothing changes I am just more pathetic.

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