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hello and so glad to have found this forum

AnnaRosa

hello to everyone,

I hope I can contribute to this forum and find support here. I am so glad I've found it.

I have two children. The oldest is now 10 and she has always had difficulties with some odd kinds of things which I know have always been outside the range of 'normal' - though this is not obvious from the outside. Reading through the info on this wonderful site I feel that she has Aspergers.

Anyway, she is often left out of invites to party's and such things because she doesn't fit in. I've always found this very painful and so, of course, does she. I try to put it into context for her, but it's very hurtful. What can I say? Also, I had similar experiences as a child so maybe I have it too so I know how isolating it can be.

Anyway, yesterday she hurt her hand during a basketball session during sports. The teacher I think was kind but she was absolutely furious - with everyone, and to make it worse many children laughed at her, again this is a sore point because it happens not frequently but on a regular basis because she is physically awkward. So then when I picked her up from school she was crying and as normal whenshe is upset she doesn't want to say why - because it hurts when you say it - and then she got mad at me! As usual.

the incident made her fragile, she was scared and felt on her own and then made it worse for herself by not asking for help....

sorry for this opening rant.

Glad to be here.

 

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  • Hello AnnaRosa,

    Welcome to the forum. I wanted to say your daughter sounds a lot like my daughter, she's 9 and we're on the road towards a diagnosis of Aspergers.

    She finds it very difficult near impossible to say what's upset her or to talk about her feelings at all. Even though it's really frustrating, I know I have to leave her talk to me about things when she feels able, if at all.

    My daughter hasn't got many friends at school, no close friends and never gets invited to other childrens' houses, but unlike your daughter she doesn't actually appear to crave this and is mostly happy with her own company. It's me, as her mother, that feels she is 'missing out', not her, she doesn't know any different.

    It's heartbreaking for a mother when you hear your child has been 'singled out' and laughed at, I know my daughter is so sensitive to anything like this. Anything she perceives as a hurtful comment she takes so hard and dwells on it big time, so this kind of behaviour from a group of children must've been horrible for your daughter, poor thing.

    No advice, just wanted to say you're not on your own.

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  • Hello AnnaRosa,

    Welcome to the forum. I wanted to say your daughter sounds a lot like my daughter, she's 9 and we're on the road towards a diagnosis of Aspergers.

    She finds it very difficult near impossible to say what's upset her or to talk about her feelings at all. Even though it's really frustrating, I know I have to leave her talk to me about things when she feels able, if at all.

    My daughter hasn't got many friends at school, no close friends and never gets invited to other childrens' houses, but unlike your daughter she doesn't actually appear to crave this and is mostly happy with her own company. It's me, as her mother, that feels she is 'missing out', not her, she doesn't know any different.

    It's heartbreaking for a mother when you hear your child has been 'singled out' and laughed at, I know my daughter is so sensitive to anything like this. Anything she perceives as a hurtful comment she takes so hard and dwells on it big time, so this kind of behaviour from a group of children must've been horrible for your daughter, poor thing.

    No advice, just wanted to say you're not on your own.

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