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louisa29

Hello everyone. 

I am a mum to a 4 yr old who was diagnosed with ASD last yr. She has delayed speech and does not communicate or interacts with her peers. She has been at school for 2 and a half wks now and seems to be settling. I am so anxious for her. 

I would love it if anyone can advise me on if I should be pushing for a statutory statement. Teacher is arranging for IEP as she has gone in under school action plus. My paediatritian says she Is shocked that there is no statement and has written to LEA but no sure if any notice will be taken.

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  • Try not to think of her as shy. If anything she is more likely, by necessity to be bolder. The problem lies with social interaction, making eye contact, understanding the nuances and inflexions of conversation. She wont be able to learn as fast or as effectively. Therefore it will prove uncomfortable, and she is more likely to appear reticent or aloof.

    But its not shyness. I think there is a danger of trying to encourage her to be less shy, when that isn't the problem. 

    The "boring" reaction is universal with kids. It is less likely she is bored than she is having trouble interacting and doesn't want the discomfort. Also she may want to do her own thing in her comfort zone, and being moved out of that do do what you or others want is uncomfortable.

    Do "after school activities" involve interacting with other kids? This is a communication disability. Communication and interaction is hard and uncomfortable. Being forced to socialise is missing the point.

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  • Try not to think of her as shy. If anything she is more likely, by necessity to be bolder. The problem lies with social interaction, making eye contact, understanding the nuances and inflexions of conversation. She wont be able to learn as fast or as effectively. Therefore it will prove uncomfortable, and she is more likely to appear reticent or aloof.

    But its not shyness. I think there is a danger of trying to encourage her to be less shy, when that isn't the problem. 

    The "boring" reaction is universal with kids. It is less likely she is bored than she is having trouble interacting and doesn't want the discomfort. Also she may want to do her own thing in her comfort zone, and being moved out of that do do what you or others want is uncomfortable.

    Do "after school activities" involve interacting with other kids? This is a communication disability. Communication and interaction is hard and uncomfortable. Being forced to socialise is missing the point.

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