Published on 12, July, 2020
She says we are too different seems she doesn’t like me or her dad says he doesn’t talk to her enough and I’m too much.
Gets mad at me all the time for trying to chat w her and stays in her room. I’m constantly trying not to upset her and crying secretly because I feel helpless.
any advice ? She was recently diagnosed & is starting therapy I think will as well.
Hi,
Sounds like life is pretty tough for you all right now, sorry to hear that
I could be totally wrong however it sounds like she is feeling pretty confused right now. She's suddenly got a diagnosis of autism which explains things to her but it also makes her feel different to everyone else. You mentioned she's starting therapy suggesting that she's struggling. You are her mum which means she knows that she can push you away and you will still care. She's taking her anger out on you. I did it with my mum after I was diagnosed, just bare with her, she will get there.
However she is also a teen and we do tend to avoid parents as much as possible, so try not to take it too personally.
Advice is to give her some space but make her aware that you are there if she wants to talk. Also mention that if she does want to talk to you about stuff then it could be over text instead. I've always found that easier.
Not sure if she reads but there is a series of books by Libby Scott aimed at teen girls which explains the life of an autistic girl, might make her feel a little less alone right now.
Alisha xx
P.S. hope things get easier soon, you are doing a great job so try not to be so hard on yourself