Knowing how to help my Husband...

My husband has not been diagnosed (and isn't sure yet if he wants to be), and I am struggling to understand what I can do to help him. He had never even considered that he could possibly have Aspergers until rescently. So it has been a big shock to him, I was not surprised when he told me the results he had got on an online ASD test though. I have talked to him about how he feels, and he has opened up to me lately, much more than he ever has done, but other than listening and trying to be supportive, I feel and (from our conversation last night) so does he, that I should be doing more to accomodate his behaviour. Previously I had put it down to being arrogant and at times uncaring. It is difficult to change the way I respond to him, even though I am now aware of what may be causing his behaviour. 

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  • longman and Hawthorn - many thanks for your support and advice :-)

    I will seek out those books and make a renewed attempt to get my husband to take some action for the sake of our marriage and kids.

    Is the GP the best starting place for him to seek help for possible diagnosis? (he never goes). I have contacted Maxine Aston but her services are expensive and far away from us (for those reasons he is unlikely to agree to that).

    The comment on alcohol is interesting. My husband is not a big drinker either but does have his moments.

    Is there a book you would recommend for my husband to read?

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  • longman and Hawthorn - many thanks for your support and advice :-)

    I will seek out those books and make a renewed attempt to get my husband to take some action for the sake of our marriage and kids.

    Is the GP the best starting place for him to seek help for possible diagnosis? (he never goes). I have contacted Maxine Aston but her services are expensive and far away from us (for those reasons he is unlikely to agree to that).

    The comment on alcohol is interesting. My husband is not a big drinker either but does have his moments.

    Is there a book you would recommend for my husband to read?

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