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Knowing how to help my Husband...

Morgie

My husband has not been diagnosed (and isn't sure yet if he wants to be), and I am struggling to understand what I can do to help him. He had never even considered that he could possibly have Aspergers until rescently. So it has been a big shock to him, I was not surprised when he told me the results he had got on an online ASD test though. I have talked to him about how he feels, and he has opened up to me lately, much more than he ever has done, but other than listening and trying to be supportive, I feel and (from our conversation last night) so does he, that I should be doing more to accomodate his behaviour. Previously I had put it down to being arrogant and at times uncaring. It is difficult to change the way I respond to him, even though I am now aware of what may be causing his behaviour. 

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  • quote "The seemingly arrogant and uncaring behaviour is actually very hurtful and draining"

    That statement covers a lot of personality types from psychopaths to every person on the street, it does not clarify Aspergers nor ASD.

    As both posts have stated, " My husband has not been diagnosed" so it is all just speculation. I wonder how many puesdoaspergers exist in the eyes of a failed relationship in denial.

    Until a professional assesses your husbands for Aspergers, your posts are just semantic. Not diagnosed until diagnosed.

    I would suggest you both get marriage guidance counselling or contact a GP for an Autism test referral, telling them that you relationship has interpersonal difficulties mostly from your husbands side.

    Good Luck ladies

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  • quote "The seemingly arrogant and uncaring behaviour is actually very hurtful and draining"

    That statement covers a lot of personality types from psychopaths to every person on the street, it does not clarify Aspergers nor ASD.

    As both posts have stated, " My husband has not been diagnosed" so it is all just speculation. I wonder how many puesdoaspergers exist in the eyes of a failed relationship in denial.

    Until a professional assesses your husbands for Aspergers, your posts are just semantic. Not diagnosed until diagnosed.

    I would suggest you both get marriage guidance counselling or contact a GP for an Autism test referral, telling them that you relationship has interpersonal difficulties mostly from your husbands side.

    Good Luck ladies

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